Will someone tell me I'm not a terrible person if I cancel going to my cousin's fiancee's wedding shower this weekend. I really don't think I can deal with it, and I'm already stressed out about what I will be able to eat there.

Of course, I hardly know my cousins, but if you're not well, you're not well.

If you need to take care of yourself, that comes first.

You need to focus on taking care of yourself, sj.

And askye, so very proud of you taking care of yourself!

Thanks, I can't decide if I should call my uncle or the bride's mother.

Can someone tell me why I fill out a form with my allergies and intolerances every time I go to the doctor's office if no one consults it when prescribing medication? I just looked up the diabetic drug I was prescribed and it looks like it's a sulfa drug. Sulfa drugs have caused me gastric distress in the past. Well at least if I feel sick tonight, I'll know why.

Apparently doctors and nurses don't believe what patients tell them, they expect those lists to never match. We were always asked for Hubby's drug list, and I finally put it on my tablet so I could hand it to them. They were almost universally surprised that someone would think to do that, and every time they asked "Is this accurate?" Maybe it's habit, maybe it's been drummed into them that a lawsuit could hinge on them not repeatedly asking about it. But yes, it's damned annoying to give them this information and have it be ignored.

And now I'm having my typical, I've taken a new med and don't know what it is going to do to me, panic attack. I hate my body.

The VA is actually really good about that. Every time my dad sees a doctor they have a printout of everything he's taking for anything, and I think it flags potential conflicts.

If all your healthcare providers are part of the same system, they need to get their act together. There's more than one computerized patient management system out there. EPIC is here in Madison and they're one of the hugest in the country. The university hospital and clinics system use it and it's awesome. Doesn't matter who I see, they just pull up my record on the computer, ask me if any of my medicines have changed since the last time they saw me, but only to verify that someone didn't forget to put it in my record. So if I go to my shrink, my PCP, my optometrist, they all have the same info.

edited because their and they're are not the same

We're on a computer system. The computer system has my intolerances listed. They print out a list of those and my medications every time I'm there and have me verify it before handing it to the doctor. There really is no excuse.