Sadly it seems I have accidentally deleted this afternoon's photos of the hummingbird twins. Figures. There were a couple of good ones.

They are sitting together on a clothesline right outside my window as the wind picks up and darkness falls. The chillier it gets, the better they get along. Only one day out of the nest and they were hassling each other over who got to sit where. Just like siblings, shoving each other and then wanting to do a little beak swordplay.

They still have a lot of down, particularly on their hindquarters, which I can see very well hanging over the clothesline. Fluffy little baby butts. Adorable. They have a stripey look to their faces that remind me of a mallard hen, if she were an elongated fashion model.

Can't wait to see what they do tomorrow. Stay tuned and thanks for the feedback.

Thanks for the mental images, Katie. Hummers are a lovely antidote to some of the less pleasant facets of daily reality. I look forward to tomorrow's hummingbird news.

bonny, I don't know if this is in your wheelhouse, but the most useful thing I've picked up in counseling is learning *that* not everything is mine to fix--even if I could, I shouldn't, because it robs the other person of the responsibility and opportunity to fix it him or herself. The second useful thing is learning to tell the difference.

not everything is mine to fix--even if I could, I shouldn't, because it robs the other person of the responsibility and opportunity to fix it him or herself. The second useful thing is learning to tell the difference.

This applies to so MANY things!

Back in '10, when I got so sick I nearly died, I'm sure a posted about something a friend said that was a profound lesson to me.

As I weakly babbled excessive thanks for her help, she stopped me by saying, "Why would you deny me the opportunity to be generous?"

That, frankly, never occurred to me before.

Just like knowing that not everything is for us to fix, AND, not every bad thing that happens in life lacks value.

eta: Robbing someone of the opportunity to grow from their own mistakes/efforts is a terrible disservice!

Tips for knowing the difference...I've got those!

There were bloopers from yesterday's shoot.

Me being silly about French girls

Anybody got a synonym for "advise". updating a legal resume, you use it a lot.

Counsel, direct(My least favorite) facillitate

oooh, facilitate!!! Thanks!

I hate it, but that might just make it resume catnip.

advocate? direct? recommend?

I hate resumes, but at least, unlike cover letters, you generally only have to do them once or maybe two or three times if you're directing it at different types of job.

Brains are weird. The last day or two, I've been dissolving into grief and fear and anger from contemplating going through eye surgery without Hubby. He was supposed to be here to hold my hand, dammit. It's the closest I've come to full=on wailing. I calmed down, did a bit of rearranging of my desk, then the thought wandered through, "It sucks, but it'll be done soon, no big deal."

The same brain, mental bootleg turns with no warning. I need better anti-sway bars.

Did we know about "The Secret Life of a Journal" Comic? [link] "It's like my life is a bottle episode". ETA Due to salty language, it's NSFW.