There's nothing like a guy meeting up with me and saying "you look nothing like your pictures" (that were literally taken the week before) and basically walking out on the date

Wow, what an asshole!! I mean, sure, I worry occasionally that I've only put my most flattering pictures up on dating sites--it's hard, because you want to look good, but you also don't want people to be like "Um, wow, that is the most flattering picture of you EVER...and you don't normally look like that" (I've had both experiences--where the person had a picture that in person I was like "Hmm, maybe from JUST the right angle, but...", and where I was like "Dude, you are SO much hotter than those pictures!" But that's not you having bad or good pictures, that's him being an asshole.

I, too, am startled by the double chin. And just went looking at myself sideways in the mirror to try to figure out if I need to suck it in while dancing, or what. :) I'm still hoping that he took some pictures from the Saturday night dance where I had an awesome swirly skirt, and that those look better. I hope.

The other thing I try to remember is the whole "too much makeup in person looks good on camera". Which is weird. Whenever I try to put on more makeup than usual, I feel like I look ridiculous, and less good than I did when I started! But then I see bloggers and stuff, and myself in photos, and go "Huh, yeah, more makeup looks good on them/in that photo". Strange stuff!!

But at the same time, I'm looking at some diet meal options. Because working out with a trainer has got me rock-hard quads, but my belly is still like unto a bowl full of jelly, because of how many cookies I eat!

OMG, He TOTALLY needs to do a Fabio pose with you!

AND WE MUST SEEEEEE IT!

Also, what Maria said.

I'm photogenic under a certain weight. At the moment, I am not photogenic.

OMG, He TOTALLY needs to do a Fabio pose with you!

He's got the hair for it. (When it's in a ponytail, you can totally see Silver Fox-age is fast approaching. When it's down and flowing in the wind like Thor, it's still pretty brown.)

I think by the wedding I will definitely have shorter hair than him. Since I've decided on hair down for the wedding, it needs to be a lot shorter than it is now (I haven't specifically been growing it out for the wedding; mostly I've just been lazy). Probably chin-length. (It's past my shoulders right now, and just full-on Yeti Hair.)

just for laughs (speaking of Fabio ....)

Steph, you could compromise and do a half-up/half-down 'do.

OMG, Toddson, I snickered so hard!

WE NEEDS THEM TO CUSTOMIZE FOR T AND TEP!

What are you talking about, customize? THAT LOOKS JUST LIKE US. Even the dress color is right!

Heh.

I love the horse, too. He's appalled at their lack of knowledge on basic horsemanship: "I am not carrying you weirdos on my neck. Go away."

on ipad. There was a question about 50 posts back about Grapevine in Dallas. Yes, it is a great bar. Also, I believe a suburb town between D & FW. But. I moved away, and memory is fading.

What photographs don't capture is our fluidity and a lot of other things that can add to attractiveness in person. I'm not saying it doesn't mean we can't work on getting rid of double chins if they bother you (I know I've got one when I hold my head a certain way, and it does bother me) but photographs aren't the only evaluative tool to use.

So very much this. And I think especially for Buffistas. I personally despise most pictures of myself, especially posed ones. I usually like candid shots of me better. There are a few more recent ones I've become fond of. I like how I look much better in person, but let me tell you I still have all kinds of body image issues at times. I have skinny limbs and no kind of ass at all.