I'm hunting for a new therapist, and I just passed over one woman because she's a thin pretty blonde. Is that bad? That's bad, I guess. Given her specialties, she probably wasn't what I need anyway, but I'd said no in my head before I even read her CV. I just don't think I can cry about my body issues in front of a thin pretty woman.
And the thing is, I like my evil like I like my men: evil. You know, straight up, black hat, tied to the train tracks, soon my electro-ray will destroy metropolis BAD.
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Zenkitty - Jun 10, 2014 11:57:29 am PDT #11231 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Dana - Jun 10, 2014 11:58:41 am PDT #11232 of 30002
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.
I think it would be bad if you decided she was horrible or incompetent based on her appearance. Instead, you're deciding for yourself what doctor is best for you. That's a healthy choice.
Zenkitty - Jun 10, 2014 12:00:44 pm PDT #11233 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Thanks, Dana. No, I didn't make any judgment calls about her competence, just how I would feel. So I guess I'm okay.
Dana - Jun 10, 2014 12:02:33 pm PDT #11234 of 30002
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.
No point in making something that's already difficult more difficult for yourself.
EpicTangent - Jun 10, 2014 12:39:02 pm PDT #11235 of 30002
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty
I just don't think I can cry about my body issues in front of a thin pretty woman.
Just like I don't feel like friends who have been married since their 20s are the people who will comfort me if I'm feeling bad about being single in my 40s. They're still my friends, they just don't meet that particular need. You're not judging her as a person, just how she will meet your needs. Seems like knowing your own needs is a healthy start.
Zenkitty - Jun 10, 2014 1:45:50 pm PDT #11236 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Psychotherapist found. Achievement unlocked. I see her in a week to evaluate if we think we're a good fit for each other. I've already babbled tearfully at her, and she didn't seem judgey, so, so far so good.
Oh, god, therapy again. I'm doing this because I feel like I need to, not because I much want to. I'm sick of the story of my own life, frankly.
Calli - Jun 10, 2014 1:48:50 pm PDT #11237 of 30002
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
I hope she works out for you, zenkitty.
Hil R. - Jun 10, 2014 2:34:42 pm PDT #11238 of 30002
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
I'm trying to be social. I'm at the arboretum, where a Young Professionals group is supposed to be meeting to see a brass band concert. I'm at the place where the concert is, but I can't find any of the people I know from the group.
Hil R. - Jun 10, 2014 3:07:54 pm PDT #11239 of 30002
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
The concert is starting, and still haven't found anyone. I tried asking on facebook, but it seems like most of the people I know didn't come.
Hil R. - Jun 10, 2014 3:48:38 pm PDT #11240 of 30002
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
I left. Couldn't find anybody I knew, didn't like the music, and the conductor was trying to get the crowd pumped up by leading everybody in a football cheer.