erin,

good grief, I am sorry about all of this. truly. take care of yourself as best you can, because that is the priority.

Is your sister going to college, or starting a new job or moving later in the summer?

I wonder if a gesture toward her (whether it be a letter or something else that you would like to do) a couple months from now might be equally appreciated.

She is starting college at a neighboring state(planning on majoring in theatre and criminology) so I have put together a little kit with small, easily packed things that can be expensive to aquire at the school stores (like specialty theatre-related drafting templates, a silver miniature scale rule, other things I aquired over many years in theatre and hung onto for sentimental reasons.) Been trying to brainstorm other general college-related stuff but I also don't want to burden her with shtuff that would require shlepping (I might have gotten her a life-size coardboard David Tennant 10th doctor for her birthday and suggested that it could look over her as she slept in her dorm room. In my defense, it does pack flat.) I try to support her interests in theatre and geekery.

I know her grandmother will make sure she has a nice suit for interviews when the time comes, and her grandfather used to be a VP at NationsBank and gives out stock as gifts so there will an investment in her financial future.

Of course there will also be many care packages once she gets there and is settling in. It's much easier for me to be loving and supportive towards her when my hackles aren't raised by being told how.

I think theater and criminology is an...interesting mix.

So, will she be doing "Chicago?"

I have been away. Now I am back. Hi, Buffistas!

meara:

erin, glad you got a diagnosis finally, and continuing health~ma for your innards!

Hil, I hope your job situation gets worked out soon.

Connie, may all the medical stuff go smoothly for your Hubby.

msbelle, I saw myself in a photo of a friend, facing away from camera, and I didn't recognize myself. I was like, "who's that fat woman? huh, I don't remember seeing her there - OMG!". So, yeah. I feel you.

I'm not sure how I'd handle it if someone were to sit with me and take care of me (without resentment) when I was sick. It's never happened.

Speaking of, cat peed on my bed again because she got shut in the room by accident.

Percy Shelley the Emo Cat and Murray O'Hair have shut themselves in rooms often enough, I've placed cast-iron doorstops inside the doorjambs of every door in the house, to prevent it happening again. Percy likes to play "shut the door". Murray's just boisterous.

erin, what a load of blackmailing BS. I'd bet it's not even the kind of thing the girl herself would even care about.

She is starting college at a neighboring state(planning on majoring in theatre and criminology)

Huh. Kinda like what you've done in life... Theater and 911 operator? The pop psychologist finds this interesting.

In the mean time, hope things get better. and don't let the turkeys drag ya down.

I feel really crappy. My fish is dead because I wasn't paying enough attention to it.

Every since I sent to that sales training my level of self care has been minimal, sleep has been minimal and I've been worried I'm going to flip into hypomania. So far it hasn't happened.

But the other day I went over with Will the things he should be looking out for. Now I'm worried going home for a visit is going to throw my schedule off as well.

Erin, you have nothing to apologize for. Again, it sounds like our stepmothers should get together and go bowling.(or whatever small-b bitches do, but I like to quote John Bender when I can.) Since she has entered my life, my stepmother has somehow unerringly managed to make everything I do both about her and reflective of some huge personal inadequacy of mine. She has leukemia now and I'm all full of mixed emotions about it.

Huh. Kinda like what you've done in life... Theater and 911 operator? The pop psychologist finds this interesting.

Yup. For a gal who rarely responds to my texts, emails, or letters there's a bizarre level of emulation there. I suspect that she's not in any way suited for either of those lines of work, but hope that college will be a good laboratory for exploring many different options.

My fish is dead because I wasn't paying enough attention to it.

askye, fish die. Seriously, you can pay close attention to them and neglect them and I believe the mortality rate is the same. I think the aquarium breeders plan it this way.

Oh erin, I am so sorry that what should be a happy event is being turned into an emotional minefield. I don't know exactly how to blow it off, but I hope you and your father can find a way to put it aside and focus on the joy of the graduation.

In Laura land my first born son has had a toothache the past few days. Clearly the first person on the planet to ever have a tooth in such pain. This happened on Friday when our dentist had closed for a 4 day weekend. They did get me in at another dentist who took x-rays and gave him scripts for pain killers and anti-biotics. He downed 4 days worth of Vicodin (maybe) in 1 day, went to some music event Friday night, and then slept for 2 days. I woke him to take the other drugs. All day yesterday and all last night and this morning, LOUD MOANING, etc. Oh and a break Saturday night from 11:30pm to 2:40am when he managed enough strength to go out to a friend's house. (no doubt for pain management) Yes, I am sympathetic, I have been there, but seriously he is shredding my last nurturing nerve.

askye, fish die.

I once had a client who had an aquarium that was so dirty, you couldn't see through it. Three fish swam in the murk. She didn't even know how to change the filter. When she was hospitalized, I took the fish. I read up on taking care of fish, cleaned the aquarium, put in fresh clean water, carefully put the fish back, fed them the right amount...and within two weeks they were all dead. Why? No idea. Fish just die, sometimes.