abandoned by her husband during her cancer treatment because "he was tired of his life being defined by her cancer."
OMG I HATE THE HUMAN RACE.
I've really got to learn to just do the damage and get out of town. It's the 'stay and gloat' that gets me every time.
Ethan Rayne ,'Potential'
Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Nora Deirdre - May 19, 2014 10:43:17 am PDT #10881 of 30002
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
beekaytee - May 19, 2014 10:59:13 am PDT #10882 of 30002
Compassionately intolerant
Oh. good. lord.
Defined by her cancer? What a jackhole.
On the other end of the spectrum, I know a woman who began a relationship with a fellow and less than three months in, she got a cancer diagnosis.
He moved her into his house, took the best care of her he could and, despite some ups and downs, 5 years later, they are still together. Engaged even.
He was never defined by what was afflicting her.
Maria - May 19, 2014 11:10:40 am PDT #10883 of 30002
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
It never even occurred to me to walk away from Rob when he was diagnosed with cancer. Did I worry about how we were going to pay for treatment? Yes, but I never dreamed of walking out the door. It actually helped us to start the process of repairing our relationship in a weird way. (We won't discuss all of the crap I found out after he died....)
Burrell - May 19, 2014 11:11:07 am PDT #10884 of 30002
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
This conversation is why I always feel obliged to show respect and gratitude to people who do the right thing by the people they love. It's not because I thought they might not rise to the occasion, but because I know that some cannot or do not, and those that do should be honored.
SailAweigh - May 19, 2014 11:42:02 am PDT #10885 of 30002
Nana korobi, ya oki. (Fall down seven times, stand up eight.) ~Yuzuru Hanyu/Japanese proverb
I never had more admiration for a cousin than when he married his childhood sweetheart after they reunited about 3 years ago, just after she had been diagnosed with brain cancer and given a year to live. She moved into his house and they married at the end of the year. She died a month after they got married. True love, man.
le nubian - May 19, 2014 12:33:39 pm PDT #10886 of 30002
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."
I am sitting her slack-jawed. So "in sickness and in health"....
people do realize than unless we are in some freak accident, we most likely will die of disease and sickness, yes?
le nubian - May 19, 2014 12:34:06 pm PDT #10887 of 30002
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."
do these same people plan to abandon their siblings? parents?
I...
Burrell - May 19, 2014 12:43:55 pm PDT #10888 of 30002
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
I don't think people plan to abandon their loved ones, they just find themselves in the land of not-dealing.
EpicTangent - May 19, 2014 12:46:31 pm PDT #10889 of 30002
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty
they just find themselves in the land of not-dealing.
Or the town of Someone Else Will Take Care of Things.
Laura - May 19, 2014 12:55:52 pm PDT #10890 of 30002
Our wings are not tired.
I do know of a number of people that walked too. It just isn't imaginable to me. Steve got his diagnosis after we had been married 4 months. It was so much something that happened to us, not to him. What he taught me the next 18 months is beyond measure. I know that my love helped him as profoundly.
When I got sick in December, I still don't remember about a week, but I do remember waking up several times and seeing DH working quietly in a chair on the laptop next to the bed. I have never felt more comforted and loved.