How awful! If it was just poor judgment, it's dreadful that he felt that was the only way to deal with it. If something really happened, how do you deal with things E reports in the future?
Don't kill anyone if you don't have to. We're here to make a deal.
Mal ,'Serenity'
Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Ginger - Apr 28, 2014 8:40:55 am PDT #10625 of 30002
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
Burrell - Apr 28, 2014 9:06:28 am PDT #10626 of 30002
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Oh WS, what an awful situation for all involved.
WindSparrow - Apr 28, 2014 9:17:12 am PDT #10627 of 30002
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
If something really happened, how do you deal with things E reports in the future?
The thing is, dealing with E does not change whether something really happened this time or not. When E makes statements about things that happen to her, there are ways to talk to her to get at the truth. I've found that when she is telling the truth, her story stays consistent. When she is not telling the truth, as I draw her out, ask for more details, get her talking, details vary widely. It's like she's her own game of telephone. If she comes to me needing emotional support, I give it to her. It's a weird little dance sometimes. I mean, if she tells me she couldn't sleep last night because her baby was crying all night, I'm not going to say, "So take the batteries out of your damn doll" - I'm going to ask her about what was really on her mind. If she is angry that her job coach doesn't help her but only bosses her around when I know that her job coach is not allowed to offer physical assistance but only verbal prompts - I'm not going say, "Dumbass, you have to follow instructions!" nor am I going to call her day program to complain about their job coaches. I'm going to talk to her about how every job has its frustrations and different ways to deal with feeling frustrated while doing what we have to do. Incidentally, she has said nothing to me about what happened with DC and I have observed no changes in her moods and behavioral patterns since the report was made.
Zenkitty - Apr 28, 2014 9:20:35 am PDT #10628 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Oh, WS, that's so horrible, for everyone involved. I'm so sorry.
Liese S. - Apr 28, 2014 10:35:48 am PDT #10629 of 30002
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."
Oh that's terrible.
WindSparrow - Apr 28, 2014 11:01:44 am PDT #10630 of 30002
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
My heart is so heavy.
omnis_audis - Apr 28, 2014 12:35:02 pm PDT #10631 of 30002
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
That's horrible.
Makes one want to stick a GoPro cam on E's head to document everything, and compare to her claims.
Strix - Apr 28, 2014 12:45:33 pm PDT #10632 of 30002
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Andi, that is just terrible, all the way around.
Beverly - Apr 28, 2014 1:46:21 pm PDT #10633 of 30002
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.
Andi, that's just a tragic situation, and there's not really any way to make it better. I'm so sorry for all concerned.
Laura - Apr 28, 2014 4:20:46 pm PDT #10634 of 30002
Our wings are not tired.
How painful for everyone.