I agree completely. It just seems a whole lot of people I know in long term relationships weren't looking for that to happen at the beginning.
I seen you without your clothes on before. Never thought I'd see you naked.
Mal ,'Trash'
Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Laura - Jun 17, 2013 9:28:57 am PDT #1007 of 30002
Our wings are not tired.
§ ita § - Jun 17, 2013 9:42:01 am PDT #1008 of 30002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
It just seems a whole lot of people I know in long term relationships weren't looking for that to happen at the beginning.
But I bet the number of people not in long term relationships and aren't looking for it is even bigger. The exceptions are more memorable than entire lifestyles. I've probably said "no" enough times to make up for every exception listed here so far, and then some.
Nora Deirdre - Jun 17, 2013 10:47:45 am PDT #1009 of 30002
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
I remember having this conversation before when discussing St. W and I feel weird having it again. I don't know how else to describe my flinching, but I'm pretty sure I'm standing in ita's corner. I don't know how helpful it is to give wonderful examples of how we found our wonderful soulmates because.... of.... reasons? Note: I am much more guilty of this in many, many in-person conversations than anyone else (I am assuming) so I don't want to sound judgy and attacking, because that's so not what I'm meaning to do.
I just feel very uncomfortable providing anything that looks like false hope with what I know are the best of intentions.
Ugh, I'm not saying this right.
Laura - Jun 17, 2013 10:52:08 am PDT #1010 of 30002
Our wings are not tired.
I understand, Nora. You're not being judgy.
brenda m - Jun 17, 2013 10:56:55 am PDT #1011 of 30002
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
Nora - let's say someone was noodling on a trip to NO sometime around mid-September. There's a really good deal right now for the French Quarter Wyndham. ($169 for two nights.) Is that a reasonablish place to stay or should I wait to see what else might come along?
Link in case anyone else is interested: [link]
Nora Deirdre - Jun 17, 2013 10:57:52 am PDT #1012 of 30002
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
Thanks, Laura. Both you and Scrappy are so awesome with the clearly awesome soulmates, and I didn't want to come across wrong.
I am perhaps beings touch ridiculously protective of the not-needing-my-protection smonster.
Nora Deirdre - Jun 17, 2013 10:59:51 am PDT #1013 of 30002
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
Yes, that's a good deal for a good hotel.
YAY PEOPLE VISITING NEW ORLEANS IN MID-SEPTEMBER!!
§ ita § - Jun 17, 2013 11:08:04 am PDT #1014 of 30002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Oh, man--sorry, smonster if I was treating you like a delicate ickle flower--I was using your name as an example with whom we are emotionally invested, that's all. I got your back if you need it, but I know you got dibs on calling your own shots (or your own zipless fucks or lobster-hunting, whichever).
Toddson - Jun 17, 2013 11:08:35 am PDT #1015 of 30002
Friends don't let friends read "Atlas Shrugged"
Hello Bitches! I'm coming up for air after being BURIED in work (we're getting a new website up and running) and a long-term bad reaction to a vaccination.
Trying to catch up ....
Scrappy - Jun 17, 2013 11:12:09 am PDT #1016 of 30002
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
I understand, Nora. I'm not trying to say that a person should hang on even when a datee says they aren't into a "relationship" but I see it sounded that way. I only mean that we can't expect all people to be perfectly clear about what they're looking for when we first meet them because THEY may not be clear.