Consuela, I feel awkward asking this, but is there a risk that your father will make the sort of decisions that he is talking about? Or is it something that you have to talk him down from in order to calm him down? Do you think there's a risk you show up at the new place one day, and he's somehow moved them out or ended the contract or done something else that could be an issue?

JZ, I hope you are breathing better today.

Scrappy, I heart you and your DH right now.

Ditto! What I would have given to see that!

Allyson! Wow, that is quite a change. Fun!

Consuela, I wish I had more to offer than support and admiration. This is such a tough thing to go through. If only we all had such dedicated loving help in our declining years.

2 of the 3 things I listed for my parents on ebay sold, so I am packing them up for shipping. only 1 of the things I listed sold, but it still sold. AFter these get packed and postage, I am gonna list a batch of mac's action figures. YAY!

Scrappy and DH are awesome.

Allyson is beautiful.

Consuela, that is just so tough. I don't mean to get in your business too much, but have you all had your dad check out for any dementia or depression also? He seems to be working against the path of help at times.

mac and I went to have a late lunch/early dinner at Red Robin. My belly is very full. I thought I might try a cardio workout tonight, but I think my body needs a rest after 15 min of Zumba last night. I swear to you all, I was an exhausted mess.

Man, I am tempted by many things on that NM for Target page. Too bad (good?) I'm broke.

JZ, adding my get well~ma to the pile.

Hmm, maybe I'll list something on eBay tonight. I get so weirdly overwhelmed by stuff I haven't done before, I think because I'm so worried about screwing up.

get on chat on fb and I'll walk you through it.

Hmm, maybe I'll list something on eBay tonight. I get so weirdly overwhelmed by stuff I haven't done before, I think because I'm so worried about screwing up.

I just did this with a bottle of perfume and it stressed me out but, in the end, was very simple. And you have a msbelle to walk you through it.

Go Cass! I cannot fully express how happy I am when I have packages to leave the house.

is there a risk that your father will make the sort of decisions that he is talking about

Not really, no. He might go look at a place, but he needs our help to move.

He was tested for dementia last year, and the determination was that he doesn't have it, but he's slipping cognitively because of age & stress. Our idea was that removing the burden of being Mom's full-time caregiver would reduce that stress. Which I think it has, mostly, except he doesn't like being in a place where they do everything.

Tonight it was so cute, he brought out a package of letters and report cards from my brothers over the years, including a note my brother (the doctor) left when he ran away at 7. SO CUTE, with killer spelling errors, and a threat that he is useless everywhere in the WOLD.

It's sweet that your dad saved stuff like that. I'm amazed!

JZ, a cheap spacer chamber idea that Noah's former pulmonogist suggested was a rigging a toilet paper roll with duct tape on both ends and a hole large enough for the inhaler. We have a spare, but I'm hesitant to send because Grace snotted in it and I can't clean it well enough to my liking. ALso, it's technically for a trache, though it would work for a non-neck breather.

I sewed Grace her own hospital gown this afternoon. It has owls. I'm making another one out of rocket fabric.