If you are really worried about your dad, I think it's worthwhile to bring up your concerns with your mom. (Forgive me please if the totally unsolicited advice is out of place, it's just that new concerns about parental behavior tend to set off a warning buzzer for me.)

It does for me now too. It's an awful lesson to learn and if it can help someone else, I'm willing to mention it. Worst case, there isn't anything actually wrong and I can say I am glad and sorry for worrying them.

Quick confab with my mom: she's making dad see a dr when they get back cause she doesn't like the changes she's been seeing, which she tried to explain away before but she's seeing it's so not explainawayable. So. Good? But also worrying.

This is good. Really, there is nothing a doctor can find out that you don't want to know as soon as possible. Including, fingers crossed, that there isn't anything wrong.

but there are many LDS members in good standing who believe that it is not their job to force their beliefs on the population as a whole, which Mitt Romney himself has stated.

Which is exactly the kind of person of faith that I can have an enormous amount of respect for because they have a faith but it is theirs. Not turn two, the rest are fodder.

Does it happen that way everywhere or is the military just really good at infidelity?

The military is really good at it. So are a lot of other people but their lives are not so clearly ranked and regimented.

If you are a lawyer and the senior partner sleeps with your wife, you can change firms. It can affect your career but you have alternate employment options available. If you are in the military and your CO sleeps with your wife? Fewer options.

Plus, knowing anecdata is not actually reliable data, yeah, the military is kinda good at infidelity.

I'm fucking loyal. And a loyal fuck, I suppose.

All that said, you'd be a really rocking spy!

Checking out Once Upon A Time. It gets grey, right? Because Ginnifer Goodwin's character is barf-o-matic right now.

According to one of the actors, yes.

Oh, hey--when did Anderson Cooper come out again?

The July email?

Can you believe I didn't notice? Like, I hide a lot, but geez. I just saw a clip of him on TV saying something like "Well, I'm gay, but!" and I'm thinking "Shh! It's a secret!"

Oh! I have a couple other questions--for the dress for M's wedding (pewter knee length with black brocade, either pink or burgundy crinolines (maybe also black?), grey or black tulle at neckline, highlight coloured ribbon at neck with ankh pendant) I'm wearing the granny boots that are almost knee high, so not too much to see. But I will be cold--I'm thinking I don't want too patterny because of the brocade on the dress, but maybe fishnets over either sheer or opaque? Highlight coloured fishnets?

Would that work?

Unrelatedly, I'm looking for small well-sealable tins for tea portage. When I stopped by Teavana to give them all my money get more of the tea I sampled last week, they didn't have any of the ones I got a couple of before-they fit 4oz of tea, pretty much, and are tight enough that sometimes it's wrestling to get them open--I have no fear they'll pop open in my bag.

Sales guy made a valiant stab at which is SWEET, but I already have my portable strainage resolved with this, and I just need to carry stuff safely now (can you believe they tried to sell me a sort of travel mug that you should only make one sort of tea in, and then it gets so infused you can start making tea out of just the mug....NO) (those glass tumblrs are lovely: [link] ). Maybe something like this, but I'm sure there's air tight ish stuff out there that's pretty and cheaper.

Oh, hey--when did Anderson Cooper come out again?

When Kathy Griffin revealed they were friends?

I'm also flabbergasted by the idea that there is a conspiracy to stop his testimony.

Well, I think that talk is about to stop post-haste. Politico has revealed that an FBI whistleblower with knowledge of the P4 investigation called up Eric CANTOR'S office to discuss the investigation. One of his staff contacted the FBI.

This was 2 weeks ago and apparently before Obama knew about the investigation.

So...can't be a true conspiracy if Cantor had full knowledge.

I had heard that one of the reasons Romney abruptly stopped the Benghazi bullshit (and it was ABRUPT) was because key Repubs told him to stop talking about it because fall out from Benghazi would hit P4. And the GOP loves P4. Well, I now wonder if Cantor took him aside to let him know about this other shit.

I suppose so, but she seemed to be the only one running with the general.

I have two friends in the Army, well really only one now, who are both full bird colonels. At their level, it's hard to find a female peer to run with. But they avoid running with their male counterparts, and vice versa, because it is totally one of those things people talk about.

Not in DC, but on an Army base everyone is running from 6:30-7:30 am. I know mny people who used that time for other than actual running.

I am enjoying the P4 gossip and speculation more than I usually do such matters, and I haven't a clue why. My only guess is good timing for distraction. It is likely that I would be most excellent at conducting affairs or spying, in my most non-humble opinion. Alas, I don't really feel any interest in doing either. I'll keep the spying option open.

I'm watching an episode of The Cosby Show where an ethnically ambiguous-looking person is encouraging people to play a guessing game to figure out what she is. This does not correspond with any reality I have ever experienced.

I see this repeatedly among the HS set here. We do have some wild combinations and it seems to amuse the kids to both guess and share.

I needed the distraction, because I got in the middle of a (white American) poster telling a (black African) poster that her reaction to the blanket descriptor of "Africa" in scenarios where the European country would probably be specified was prejudiced and problematic.

I do wish I had edited at least the headline, because really, isn't the more amazing point that they are teenagers? I think so. (Like I did change the headline on the elephant who can say words, because it's not more impressive that they are Korean -- the elephant is in Korea!)