My grandfather on my mom's side refused to stop driving. He would just take side streets in his small town. Then he accidentally got onto a four-lane street in town and caused an accident. So my mom (who had power of attorney) just gave the car to me. (It was '71 Galaxie 500 with lots of miles, probably worth $100.)
He was really angry about having his car taken away, but after a few days he forgot all about it.
My parents stopped driving without complaint (my dad after his doctor told him to stop). The last time my dad drove with me in the car I was appalled at how his driving skills had deteriorated.
Is there any reason not to take away his car keys?
Just respect for his independence. Which is a pretty big reason, for me, anyway. He hasn't gotten into any accidents yet, and he takes the AARP safe-driving refreshers pretty regularly. And it is convenient sometimes to have his car around, because Mom has trouble getting into most of our other cars: too high, too small, something.
How about just for a month (or whatever period of time), to help your mom settle? If he doesn't understand/believe that the only way to get used to the new place is to see it as the only place, then I think it's probably a good call.
What might be worthwhile is to broach the idea with him that he give you his keys for a week or two voluntarily. It might acutally make things easier for him since he could have an out and would not have to fight off her entreaties to drive her back. (Sometimes passive is the best kind of aggressive!)
ION, I don't understand why this photoset doesn't have All The Notes.
Just respect for his independence
As well you should. But does he know that he's always coming right back to their new digs? If he even vaguely doubts that, he should give them to you until it's more of a non-issue.
Reason # 831 I am better off single: My thought wrt being in the place of Suela's dad - fake an injury that would render me immobile.
You know, Suela, you could take the car into the shop for routine maintenance and leave it there for a couple days.
"Had to change the oil. Sorry, couldn't get out there to pick it up today. Do you really need to go somewhere today?"
Latest job drama: possible Houston job has quickly emerged! Moving at lightning speed compared to ABQ job. He's going down for an interview next week, and they suggested he add a couple of days onto his trip for house-hunting.
The issue I see with it being anything that he chooses is that then he will be on the end of sall her rage and my guess is he has had more than enough of that, thus the giving in.
