My parents are continually on 'who did you just dismiss???' alert. We pretty much have them cowed into submission. Which I do feel is kinda cool, that they cave to us.

They do accept that their reflexes are hard to overcome, but they really do know what not to say out loud. Ever since my sister's "don't make me be a lesbian just to test you" threat in high school--well, then half of my mother's family came out of the closet, and everything became pretty personal.

Holy shit, I once wasted an entire day looking through every single batcomic I (remembered that I) had for the source of that batarang budget line, and ended up concluding it must be fanon.

loves Tim Drake forever and ever and isn't sorry

t sits next to Tep

t squeezes in on the Tim Drake fangirl bench

Oh, Tep. Oh, your heart and mine. I've had similar conversations with my dad, and I'm still, at two weeks shy of 45, having to remind myself that there are things that he will never, never get and things I just should never say to him, because I know exactly what his answer will be, his answer will never change, and he'll be jovial and chipper about it and will never, not ever, change the script he's been given. At this point, I should know better than to feed him certain cues. The script will never change, and trying to change it at this point is like making myself a shit sandwich on purpose and then complaining that I have to eat a shit sandwich.

But it's disheartening. It's hard to let go of the imaginary dad who always says the right thing and loves you precisely because of all the things you are, instead of in spite of some of the most important ones.

Oh god yes. He's giving, and he's a good person in so many ways, and he loves me and my brother more than anything in the world. And he's also racist and doesn't respect women and is never ever going to change. And it hurts.

But he's my dad, and I love him, and I just have to let it be what it is. And, yeah, like you said, try not to feed him certain cues.

Holy shit, I once wasted an entire day looking through every single batcomic I (remembered that I) had for the source of that batarang budget line, and ended up concluding it must be fanon.

Boom: [link]

Yeah, Timmerz is totally checking out Kid Flash's ass. Not that I blame him.

"You have to accept that your word choice is biased towards cis people."
[mother looks irritated that I've already explained this meaning of 'cis' to her, and that she remembers] "Did we ask you to come home for Christmas, or did you just show up?"

Hey, there was a hair, and I split it. My sister harps on cues to change people's minds, I harp on them to get people to admit things. We're probably equally irritating about it.

This article about language influencing thought is cool not just because it contains this sentence:

Indeed, the data say yes

It's cool because I feel I need to challenge my linguistic preconceptions, but jealous of people who have more or different ones from me.

Okay, now I need to re-read that collection of Teen Titans TPBs.

Look what you people make me do.

This article about language influencing thought is cool

That was fascinating.

Steph my Dad is like that.

He's also weirdly obsessed with weight. He's always worried about eating right and getting fat. And from various comments over the years (comments I overheard about other women) he really doesnt' like fat women. He likes young, skinny dark haired women. The only thing I can say is he has never made me feel bad about my weight.

However, when I was in high school he did approach Mom with his fears I was going to be a feminist.

Mom's response was "Too late."

He also made a really homophobic comment in the San Francisco airport. Which caused heads to turn and I didn't call him on it then but I did later.

Last time I was at the beach and we were fishing he told me a racist joke. All I said was I didn't think it was funny. And the subject dropped. We stay away from politics, religion, social issues and most current events in our conversations. Which is limiting in what we talk about but it's either that or we get in fights.