I've been working on my "right to take up space" skills--and damn it's disheartening to realize in my 50s that I've been subconsciously apologizing to the world for inconveniencing it for my existence, so I'll just stand here in a corner and not try for anything beyond the minimum, but better late than never--so I've been shutting down the voices that say "No, that's thinking above myself, I'm not really qualified, they won't want me."
On my seventh birthday, I wanted a toy fire truck, and I didn't get it, and you were real nice about it, and then the house next door burnt down, and then real firetrucks came, and for years I thought you set the fire for me. And if you did, you can tell me!
Xander ,'Same Time, Same Place'
Natter 71: Someone is wrong on the Internet
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Connie Neil - May 23, 2013 10:39:07 am PDT #23427 of 30001
brillig
Ginger - May 23, 2013 10:39:35 am PDT #23428 of 30001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
the words advisor and adviser have actual different meanings
Not in American English. The original correct form was adviser, but advisor became so widespread as to be accepted as an alternate spelling.
Jesse - May 23, 2013 10:40:30 am PDT #23429 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
What would the difference be/have been?
Consuela - May 23, 2013 10:45:26 am PDT #23430 of 30001
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
Yay Connie, go you!
Someone forwarded me an announcement for a position in DC, that I was going to blow off, but maybe I'll put in for it. It's another government position, with a totally different agency, but more apparent room for advancement.
And given the speed of government, by the time they make a decision my family situation may well have changed anyway...
Connie Neil - May 23, 2013 11:17:12 am PDT #23431 of 30001
brillig
Of course the self-confidence demons are now all whispering "You know they're just going to change their minds, now, right? Or you're goign to crash and burn and they're going to boot you back to tech support."
Stupid demons.
And in a shout-out to the "sharing makes it better" theory, hearing everyone else here wrestle with their self-destructive demons has helped me realize that the voices aren't some unique speaker of truth, they're just voices that lots of people hear.
bon bon - May 23, 2013 11:23:22 am PDT #23432 of 30001
It's five thousand for kissing, ten thousand for snuggling... End of list.
The apparent distinction between adviser and advisor would certainly be news at my agency.
Burrell - May 23, 2013 11:28:01 am PDT #23433 of 30001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
I love it when buffistae talk etymology, I always learn something.
I have had a fairly productive morning. Interviewed the final editor candidate, decided on who to hire for next year, wrote one rec letter, writing another this afternoon. And bonus, learned there's a Fresh & Easy right by campus.
sarameg - May 23, 2013 11:31:55 am PDT #23434 of 30001
To sum up: I am a complete asshole when buying a car.
Also, I bought a car. 2013 Mazda2
More later. Going to go turn in my old title.
Burrell - May 23, 2013 11:33:47 am PDT #23435 of 30001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Congrats on the new car, sarameg. I say go celebrate with your neighbors and a bottle of wine.
Scrappy - May 23, 2013 11:36:22 am PDT #23436 of 30001
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Here is the important question, sarameg: what color? (also, congrats on the new vehicle)