Oh crud, Consuela, that's so hard. I'm glad your brother is nixing the surgery so that it's not an issue. It does sound like it's time for a family talk around a lot of hard issues. I'll be holding you in my thoughts and hoping that everyone can quickly come to agree on what's best for her, especially your dad. Much love to you.

Thanks so much, Burrell.

I'm just so overwhelmed. Between all this and the job situation, I just want to go hide somewhere.

And now I have to go to bed, where I will probably lie awake and worry. Bah.

Consuela,

while I am not living through your circumstance, I was at a near panic from May through July because of moving, new job, work and I was seriously at/over my limit.

The only thing I knew was to take things one step at a time. It is a lot and it will feel like you can't handle it all but you can. Just one step in front of the other.

What a tough place to be in, Consuela. All the best ~ma for finding the solutions that will work for your family.

I have to go find that article about how doctors die, again: they don't keep running around for more treatment. And they die peacefully and not drawn out, after months or years of pain.

I really think that it can be a much better way to live. Maybe a shorter time but a better overall quality of life. Not that medical treatment can't lead to wonderful things but, at the end of life, I think we go to far. Just grasping for things we can't ever hold and keep.

This is a really hard time, Consuela. If you ever need an ear or experience, I am around. Nothing makes it stop being hard but some things make it a little easier.

I am sorry about Uncle Bud, lisah.

Anne, I am sorry that Jeeves is declining.

I'm so sorry, Consuela. I'm specially glad your brother-the-doctor is going to be on hand to help navigate the medical conundrums and help pick among the lesser of evils.

Woke up before dawn to the sound of cats yowling. Amazingly it wasn't any of our household furballs, but strangers outside. So much for sleeping in....

So mr. flea woke up this morning and confessed that he had had a dream in which he was unfaithful to me. With Cheryl Ladd. I cannot describe how hilarious I find this.

Oh, Consuela. Just breathe.

I am so not in the right headspace for my annual review at work today. Fuckit is not the best attitude. Sigh. Off to work.

Consuela, I don't know if you've been in touch with your local Alzheimer's Association, but they can be a great resource for getting referrals and figuring out "care solutions." [link]

Am on a train. Jessica, I may be adjacent to you (sunset park, Clinton hill) tonight/tomorrow. After I go to this meeting and don't die. I hope the Internet can distract me today.

Consuela, you are in my thoughts - I wish you all the strength and a really good climb as soon as possible. .