I just had a really interesting meal with Polgara and family. I wish I had responded to the woman who was manning an arts and crafts table for kids and said, "No you can't take a crayon. You can send the kids over because we are providing a service," with, "have you been fingerprinted? Do you have a CPR certification? What ECE credits do you have? Have you had a TB shot? Because I work all day with kids and I have those things. You, on your cell phone while entitled kids sit and color? NSM a service as you want a tip." Or at the least, I should have said, "I wouldn't trust you with my kids."
Oh man. I've also realized West Hollywood people are not my people. At all.
You frame it like parents just are dead-eyed, and it's because of their kids.
So it wasn't just me who read it that way?
Sorry, insert foot. I meant specifically in the pictures, although I don't think that helps. Outside of what my camera captured, when I was actually at the event, everyone seemed happy. I'll shut up now.
You know, some family therapists actually look over family snapshots with clients and point out aspects of the relationship that is evident in body language. I mean it's one thing if ONE spontaneous snapshot hints at dysfunction (because everybody has off moments, days when they're worried about something, pain, etc.), but when it happens over and over, something is off.
Note they primarily use snapshots rather than posed family portraits when everyone is supposed to be smiling. It's those spontaneous moments when people are being themselves without the awareness they're being watched that shows you a lot.
Except, if I don't think the picture is of me, I'm not engaged with it. And my eyes are naturally sleepy and my mouth turns down a little if I'm not smiling, so I generally look either high or angry.
After I started on the anti-anxiety drugs, I really noticed how much BETTER I looked in pictures. Not that my features had changed in any way, but my body language and facial expression changed to be way more attractive.
That's nice to hear.
ION, does one just have a phone interview from one's office? That feels so creepy! And I know the walls aren't that good.
I've done it, but if there's somewhere nearby that you can step out to and do it from your cell I think that's generally more comfortable. And especially if you feel like you might be overheard.
It's those spontaneous moments when people are being themselves without the awareness they're being watched that shows you a lot.
If someone takes a bad picture of me and infers that it's because my children have rendered me dead inside, I'm pretty comfortable saying that says more about their issues than it does about my family.
I've done it, but if there's somewhere nearby that you can step out to and do it from your cell I think that's generally more comfortable. And especially if you feel like you might be overheard.
Somehow I feel like going to the phone room would be more obvious. I think my voice doesn't carry like my coworker's, and even with her, I can only hear what she's actually saying about half the time. I guess it will be fine. I just wish I had gotten the 5pm slot!
