Tell me you are not still watching that Selena Gomez movie.

Ha! No, not at all. About a 180, for the same age range--Pariah is about a teenaged butch black lesbian who's struggling with identity and coming out and finding someone to love. The acting is good, the direction/camerawork a bit cliche, but maybe that's more that it's a code for authenticity, but it's one of those movies that, no matter how it ends, I am thinking "no, not the right choice for a slow Saturday afternoon."

The Selena Gomez movie was *exactly* the sort of movie everyone has seen a hundred times, like a Lifetime version of any given movie where an American teen ends up dealing/living with rich people in Europe, with added Freaky Friday elements. The sort of movie that makes you depressed for completely different reasons.

he was always an asshole and a bit of a bully

I do know enough about him to find this ironic.

it's not like there were a ton of places for frank sex advice

Where do people go for this these days? I remember Jez running a mother/daughter sex advice column, but that was a ways back. And I'm blanking on the name of the chick I've seen doing it on...youtube and Tumblr? But I think she's more education than answering questions, and also, could I come up with less identifying information?

When did Dan make it big, and whose banner was he publishing under at the time?

I think he's surprised that people are beginning to...look to him. Maybe kind of as a role model or at least, as a source of responsible advice

If the responses that people are criticising are advice responses over a period of years, why is he still surprised he's being looked to? Isn't it part of his job, and has been for a while? Did he only start giving advice to anyone other than "him" (tumblr advises that this means gay white cisman with a specific attitude towards polyamory) recently?

He's been writing on Ann Landers's desk for how many years now? He knows he has a platform.

Where do people go for this these days? I remember Jez running a mother/daughter sex advice column, but that was a ways back. And I'm blanking on the name of the chick I've seen doing it on...youtube and Tumblr? But I think she's more education than answering questions, and also, could I come up with less identifying information?

The internets, broadly. He's been doing this since the early 90s, if memory serves.

Savage Love column and podcast, etc Pretty sure he was the first person to openly talk about kink/fetishes/non-vanilla sex on any mainstream publication. Well, once the Savage Love column went mainstream. I find the podcasts highly entertaining and informative.

I'm pretty sure a college friend worked with him at The Stranger. I think that's how I first heard of him. No recollection of what she thought of him. Then she went on to Salon, and it's surreal that I sat at a table and exchanged words with whathisface-Jake Tapper. And Arielle Huffington. It was a Salon thing she took me to down in DC, back when they were still sort of an upstart. We were actually invited to Huffington's, but a) we were both sick and b) while I knew who she was, I didn't really know. Mildly rueful about passing that up, though I left that night thinking 'what a bunch of pretentious, albeit interesting, assholes.' As I wasn't in politics or media,but science I got a lot of brush offs. I spent most of the night talking to the lower level journalists and photgs. Fi was a politics journie and almost-editor at the time.

Man, that was a long time ago. I don't think I had a digital camera! So it had to be before 2002.

The internets, broadly

I am just wondering what other advice columns there are on the internet.

My sister did get me in touch with basically the only woman who's doing that in Jamaica. And I don't even remember the question I had...something about virginity, I think. Anyway, she is very pushy with the promoting and the networking, so she dragged me into listening to her J'can radio show (bless the interwebs) where she answers questions like the ones being asked of Savage. And she also has a web site where she answers questions too. That sort of thing I'm curious about in the US.

I was doing more tab cleanup, and how weird has the news been over the last little while? Meteors, olympians killing people, LAPD going on a widespread and indiscriminate vendetta against a murderer blaming them, and the pope quits and even if you don't count the shit boat, just a buncha random stuff.

Mark Wahlberg is crEEpy.

I also had lunch with Cass and kristin and Noise Design.

Yay!

Totally unrelatedly, I apparently dress like Liese, and I think that's frickin' awesome.

Sweet! Good for us.

You know, in retrospect, my parents never gave me shit for dressing androgynously. Which, considering how conservative they are, is somewhat surprising. But I was always encouraged to be who I was. Which is nice, 'cause, you know, I am.

My heating pad isn't really hot enough (still trying to beat out this crick in my neck, it comes and goes.)

Also, I found it interesting that, at my former neighbor's daughter's 7th bday party, the attendees were 7 little boys. The other parents/guardians remarked on it too. She invited some of her girl friends too, but we were musing on whether it was a parent-schedule-thing or the fact Piper is such a rough-and-tumble-outdoorsy sorta kid (with a pink and purple bedroom, massive dollhouse, dolls up the wazoo and PINK legos- oh, and she got to spend her birthday in her blue-with-pink-princesses flannel pjs and sparkly sneakers,) that the boys were more insistent that they attend- so much so that there were two uncles who brought their nephews because the parents had other obligations for their other kids. But they were having a blast, roaring around the basement and back yard.

And it was fun talking to complete strangers I didn't even have kids in common with. And their blond golden retriever still loves me more than anyone else. It's kinda comical- she always chose me as her favorite when I used to go next door for get togethers, but you'd think she might've forgotten. Nope. I had a larger (she was < 1 yr when they moved) golden on my lap/leaning on me/following me the entire time I was there. That dog ADORES me. And she's pretty sweet, and well behaved other that the whole lapcat routine. She reminds me of Loki.

Sheesh, world that is not you. None of you secretly lives in Flagstaff, do you? I'm trying to find housing for a band for a night, and you'd think I'd asked them to give up their silver to use in animal sacrifices. Why is this so hard?