...and that you can tell from the bands he listed as favorites that it was really ghost-written by a 13 year old girl. Essentially.

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So are mine. Really.

But seriously, Rio isn't married to Bob Saget, either. If someone has real health problems and makes a jokey explanation for them, I don't really care.

The lines between code and lies and euphemism and just the way we talk about things to deal with them at all get pretty clouded even without the fact that we all talk textually.

but you don't get to pretend we know each other in a healthy way...fuck off.

You know, this is actually how I feel when TVTropes comes up.

I am sorry, Sheryl.

How do they not know the prognosis?

Speaking as someone with a recently diagnosed cancer patient in the family? Pretty easily. Especially early on. It's really more art than science. A good and scientific art, but art.

In things that matter to no one but me, there is an up and coming racing driver named Victor Carbone and (I think) because Nestor Carbonell played a character named Victor in Ringer, I picture him. The kid kinda looks like him too. Which makes it no less confusing.

I'm sorry, Sheryl. Health~ma.

Thanks Cass. That's frustrating.

And someone can know something, without the information dissemination through the family, too.

So sorry, Sheryl.

One of Bob's closest friends had a girlfriend of many years who was pretty messed up in a lot of ways and who died a couple of years ago. I think he knew some of the story before she died but after she died it came out that she had multiple fake online personalities in a bunch of different forums. I'm not sure of all the details but there were people who felt pretty close to fake versions of this person. He ended up having to figure out how to let them know that the real person behind the faker was really dead. Sad stuff.

I've only ever been tempted to make a sock puppet to correct grammar and spelling in the comments on sites like Jezebel.

That's frustrating.

It can be. After my dad fell and a CT scan showed a mass in his brain, it took three weeks until we had an actual diagnosis. And if we've had an actualfax diagnosis beyond "hopeful" and "here's what we are trying first and we'll see how it goes and then we'll retest and see" in the last two weeks that I've been home, I don't know it. Plus, a lot of it really depends on the patient. Their health, their motivation and - honestly - their outlook. The variables are just really variable.

Though Jesse is right, I know mom and I weren't sharing every iota of information with everyone at the beginning, just the overview and what we knew for sure. And what you know for sure isn't always a lot early on.

It's a mindfuck.

Things can change suddenly too. A former co worker's son died of cancer this year. At one point they were told he was in remission and his family was posting on FB about how happy they were and tentatively making plans for the future.

Then it seemed a month later the cancer was back and there was nothing anyone could do. He went downhill really fast, they wanted to plan a family trip for Make a Wish, but he wanted to Skype with a Disney star. A few days after that he died.

There was a really long post there. I deleted it. I have no idea what I was trying to say.

Fucking work making me fucking insane. I actually ended up in an argument with my boss whether it constituted a problem that one special type of observation brings the system to its knees in less than 30 minutes and we don't know if there are other cases out there that can do the same amidst 50TB of data. She felt it was not longer as much of a priority to fix the software now that we isolated the known cases. I beg to differ. I'm sorry, if you have software that is capable of running amok and rendering a powerful server difficult to POWERCYCLE, your software has a problem. Uhg. And then the team leads were getting all pissy over territories and UHG. I mean, that I do understand, we're all kinda fucked with resources right now, but whyso testy? We actually have a very good symbiotic relationship between dev, test and ops. WhereTF did that come from?

I'm so over this week.