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She had kids before 30 like you're supposed to!

Um...

eta: this kind of sounds like blaming the cancer patient, even though I know the statistic support it.

and I should add that I am sorry about your friend, meara, of course.

I'm sorry, meara. Fuck cancer. It's so damned unfair.

You said that botox isn't worth it--that implies some sort of a trade, right? What are you giving up, in exchange for the effects of botox?

Oh! Not worth the potential risk. But I know that risk is almost nil, so, really, not worth the anxiety I'd be having until the immobility wore off.

What, "relatively-minor"? Oh, I saw it, missy.

I mock you with my editing pants off! It gave me a rebellious naughty thrill to put that hyphen in there. No, I mean it, it did.

eta: this kind of sounds like blaming the cancer patient, even though I know the statistic support it.

I am pretty sure that blaming the cancer patient is a bad thing even when it's something like lung cancer that we know it tied to smoking. It's more like, "FUCK CANCER!" because we are all so hurt by this pretty random mutation. I don't think I should be judged by a cellular process for the fact that I think I am better off not raising a child or several. Really. And I don't think I am here. Cancer really sucks. It sucks if it is something known to happen sometimes due to your choices and when it isn't. It just sucks.

DUDE. I CLOSED THE WINDOW BEFORE HITTING POST.

Anyway--I read meara's post as "runs three miles a day, eats salad, has heart attack anyway"--whatchya gonna do?

Thanks for the feedback, Burrell. I'll have to precisely plan stuff. Maybe tomorrow I can get the insurance coverage info.

I cannot imagine all the shoes that are Fluevogs.

And associated brilliance you have now missed. Can you feel your life disenrichening? It's totally a thing.

I am wearing Captain American boxers (men's natch, because women don't seem MATTER TO SOME PEOPLE

Anyway--I read meara's post as "runs three miles a day, eats salad, has heart attack anyway"--whatchya gonna do?

but you've never had a heart attack

and I did say it was a kneejerk response

this kind of sounds like blaming the cancer patient, even though I know the statistic support it.

Sorry, Lee--totally NOT meant that way. More in a "crap, my mom had breast cancer at 40 and having kids early is supposed to help and I'm TOO LATE FOR THAT and OMG MY FRIEND HAD THEM AND IT DIDN"T HELP BRAIN GOING CRAZY"

Anyway--I read meara's post as "runs three miles a day, eats salad, has heart attack anyway"--whatchya gonna do?

This.

Definitely not trying to be like "Gawd, those cancer patients, why didn't they just have KIDS, like they were SUPPOSED to? Clearly would've prevented it all" (...especially since I'm among the no-kids group!)

And I get that, I promise I do. You just hit one of my HAI, I HAVE ISSUES, LET ME SHOW YOU THEM buttons.

It's hereditary [link]

From Lee's link:

If my mother just sent me an email saying that she just found out that one of a work friend's two daughters has breast cancer and that she isn't sure which, but she guess it's the one "who, like you, does not have the protection offered by child bearing", am I allowed to tell her to STFU?

Oh, wow. Suddenly the Republicans' policies on health insurance and reproductive rights make sense!

Is that where they get their whole "abortion causes cancer" thing? Oy.