I'm a polictially naive. Is it a step forward to have homosexuality be an identity rather than a facet of an individual? Or is that a necessary step towards it being truly an accepted facet of an individual? When I was diagnosed with diabetes, I resented the hell out of being identified as "diabetic" instead of "someone with diabethes".

As I understand it, the idea of homosexuality as a facet of a person is still somewhat new. The older idea was that a person might commit homosexual acts, the same way a person might commit adultery or some other sin, but the idea of homosexuality being something that someone was rather than something that someone did is pretty much late Victorian, and owes a lot to Freud.

(Someone who knows this stuff better than I do can probably correct some of that, but I think I've got the basic ideas right.)

The folks who own the villa we're staying at for my sister's birthday are trying to charge her $1500 US DOLLARS, let's be clear, extra for having a bunch of people over to "lyme" (chillax with alcohol) for the day.

She's rented the villa already and they want to charge $1500 to have a party? That's insane.

I could maybe, maybe, see that as a damage deposit that is refunded if the place isn't burnt down in the end.

Suela, is your mother on any anti-anxiety type of medication? I feel like it's terrible to suggest, but I feel like Valium could make everyone's life better in this situation.

Speaking of medical/hospital issues, Kat's experiences have been instructive for me because I feel like I keep having to push back on my arm care. Long story short: I got my cast off yesterday and my arm is still kind of fucked up -- e.g., going palm down to palm up I can only do it halfway. Doc wants me to get PT, and I'll be 100% in a month. First PT appointment is in ONE MONTH. That's too long, right? I feel like I'll have permanent loss of function if I wait that long.

Not terrible! A lot of people with dementia can find drug combos that lessen their anxiety, which is good for everyone.

Hil, yes. An overabundance of sexual appetite, spilling over from the natural objects of attraction to individuals of the same gender. And, as we all know, sexual appetite in any notable quantity is to be looked askance at. (unnecessary disclaimer: of course this is all bullshit.)

bon, yeah, I'd be really hesitant to wait a month. Things can get much more permanently messed up. Supination, man, people don't realize how important it is till it's hard.

Also my wrist is much less shapely and I'm peeling so much I expect to go back to work on Tuesday and find my desk has created Lutherans. But yeah, the supinate/pronate thing is an actual problem.

I didn't know PT could work in a month. How many appointments does he want you to happen?

I don't know if you'll suffer permanent damage if it's not treated by a PT right away, but that doesn't mean you should just live with an arm that hurts and doesn't function fully in the meanwhile. That's not supposed to be your status quo.

At the very least, did he suggest anything to mitigate the pain and make sure that you don't ossify in the meanwhile? PT appointments can be a real bitch to get--repeatedly fussing for a cancellation might be good, but that doesn't ensure a series of appointments--are there other PTs you could see?

Those are all the thinky on topic thoughts I have today. Way too much shit.

But! At least I'm dressed so cute your eyes could puke. And it's all due to this dress. I love it. My manager who has never worn a skirt to the office since I've been here even complimented it.

Yeah, that doesn't seem right, bon.

That dress is super cute.