It sounds like one of the things that really upsets your mom is any disruption of her schedule or the familiar things she expects to happen/have.
Yep, that's the case with dementia.
River: I didn't think you'd come for me. Simon: Well, you're a dummy.
'Serenity'
Natter 70: Hookers and Blow
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Dana - Aug 21, 2012 5:34:24 pm PDT #18985 of 30001
I haven't trusted science since I saw the film "Flubber."
lisah - Aug 21, 2012 5:35:53 pm PDT #18986 of 30001
Punishingly Intricate
Australia!!
Consuela, I have no advice but I wish there was something like an easy solution for you.
Consuela - Aug 21, 2012 5:46:23 pm PDT #18987 of 30001
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
I wish there was something like an easy solution for you.
Me, too.
Jesse - Aug 21, 2012 5:47:52 pm PDT #18988 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Yeah, there's no easy solution. But I'll repeat again that you taking care of them is NOT a solution. You need a job for money and can't do both things full-time and survive. Put your own oxygen mask on first.
lisah - Aug 21, 2012 5:52:02 pm PDT #18989 of 30001
Punishingly Intricate
Put your own oxygen mask on first.
Wise.
Burrell - Aug 21, 2012 7:48:38 pm PDT #18990 of 30001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Oh Suela, I hope you aren't feeling piled upon right now. We are all speaking out of love for you.
Vortex - Aug 21, 2012 8:21:04 pm PDT #18991 of 30001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
If given a choice, I want to fly internationally on sheik-funded MidEast airlines. Avoiding US based like the plague. They've been the cushiest in my limited experience. Best food, entertainment, perks. C'mon Qantas, impress me with more than your safety record!
When flying internationally, I try to fly the country's airline. It's almost always nicer.
Qantas is pretty nice, I'd place them ahead of US and United. My favourite airline is probably Singapore, though it's been some years since I last checked them out.
I flew Singapore airlines once with my parents. I remember getting a lot of swag, including a deck of cards with a gorgeous woman on them. Of course, that may have been because we were flying on the black passports.
le nubian - Aug 21, 2012 8:22:23 pm PDT #18992 of 30001
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."
Of course, that may have been because we were flying on the black passports.
I think Vortex just confirmed what I always knew: she is one of the Incredibles.
Consuela - Aug 21, 2012 8:37:52 pm PDT #18993 of 30001
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
Oh Suela, I hope you aren't feeling piled upon right now. We are all speaking out of love for you.
Oh, no worries. I'm just sort of flailing. We had rather decided it would be too difficult to get my mother into a facility, but I think we're going to have to re-evaluate that. If there's one where they can be together but still get enough support for dad and he doesn't have to be the full-time caregiver, that would be best.
Liese S. - Aug 21, 2012 9:42:33 pm PDT #18994 of 30001
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."
That does sound most ideal, Suela. And I want to pipe up with how difficult I know it is. My mother has expressed in no uncertain terms how she would never be happy in any kind of home and that she expects us to care for her should the need arise. She's not speaking out of a vacuum; she was the primary caregiver for her mother, blind and partially deaf, for many years, and is now the caregiver for my father with Parkinson's. She's not asking anything she hasn't already done herself. There are definitely times when providing the care yourself is, in fact, the best thing you can do for the person, albeit not the best thing you can do for yourself. So it's not ever an easy decision, and I feel for you.