Julie, maybe I'm not understanding, but I don't get why your dad has to drive 6 hours when she hits the button for the ambulance. When you say she "keeps hitting the button", I hear, there's nothing really wrong, she's just freaking like old folks do sometimes. (Is this a LifeAlert thing?) Surely the ambulance gets to her quicker than your dad can! If there's something actually wrong that your dad (or someone) needs to come, wouldn't the hospital call?

What the hell is wrong with people? [link]

I mean, seriously. What the hell?

Yeah, the hospital calls after the ambulance gets her to the hospital. They called my uncle, who replied that my dad dealth with her, and hung up on them. And then my dad would come down and talk to the doctors and get her out of the hospital and was her bedding and other laundry and get groceries. She apparently busted her tailbone and there's nothing the docs can do but give her pain meds, but every time the pain gets too much, she bangs for the ambulance, even if she has a relevant doctors appointment the next day.

She's fainted twice due to dehydration, so not taking care of herself. The washer and dryer are in the basement, and she's not been going down there. The house hasn't been vacuumed or dusted in months. The tell for me is that my dad has no sense of smell and even he claims that the house is stinky.

I don't know all the deets of why my dad has to go down every time, other than her medicare running out if the hospital decides to keep her longer when they have no idea why she's there or have no means to aid her. Even getting her into a rehab for her tailbone will take time.

But, if she pulls something again, where my dad feels that he has to come down to intervene, should I offer myself to go over, where I'd have a 3 hour roundtrip, as opposed to a twelve hour round trip.

Okay, I see. If I were you, I'd offer to go, because filial duty blahblah obligation guiltcakes. As you said, not for her, but for your dad. And encourage him to get her in a safe place asap. Not a good situation. Good ~ma to both of you!

What the hell is wrong with people?

Whoa. Although the gift card and the date aren't a bad ending, but seriously, a concussion? Wow.

I mean, I guess the woman was drunk or something, but WTF.

Would volunteering to take some of the load slow down the process getting her into a nursing home? Cause you were the one who said that even though you love him, your Dad is a jerk. Is he the kind of jerk who might respond that way?

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What the hell is wrong with people?

In that case, I'd say what's wrong is, she forgot to take her meds. Ever.

Damn, if a bookstore isn't safe, where can you go?

Not me, Typo; Juliebird.

Julie, since you're closer, maybe you could help arrange for home health care and an occasional cleaning service instead.