I've started nodding along and then shaking my head...saying "yes...but you mean no?" because I figure I should work with him and then entice him over to the side where logic lives. Evidently a crap plan.

That makes three developers in the past couple years that would rather say "yes" than work out if "yes" means they're agreeing with me. It's really kind of creepy, but I wonder if it's an ESL defense mechanism where they're behind in the translation and are trying to buy time or something. I can see that, except please stop doing it.

Fucking hell, stop telling me defence isn't a word. I am too tired for this.

There's no way in hell I'm actually going to watch more than 15 seconds of this, but do these guys really spend the better part of an hour discussing an Adam Sandler movie: [link] ? How can that possibly be worth your paycheque?

Speaking of Adam Sandler, a bit of the most recent recent was shot at my office, and they gave away aome tickets to a screening.... The reviews were that our place looked great.

My goal is to be content. That does not involve me running anything, working any harder than I do now, or managing anything.

So remember how yesterday my husband found out that he had a 25% chance of being laid off? This afternoon, his grandmother died. Not unexpected, and not even unwelcome, but JFC. I bet he's going to have angst about going to the funeral, which I assume will be some time next week, though we don't have details yet.

where they're behind in the translation and are trying to buy time or something.

I did that the other day. I was nodding and, whoa, realized I had no idea what had been said. But I then asked for it to be repeated. Because if I am agreeing with something or agreeing to do something, I should grasp what it is. And it wasn't a different language. I just wasn't comprehending for a moment.

Fucking hell, stop telling me defence isn't a word.

It's the act of taking a fence down, right?

edit: Dana, I am sorry.

Oh god, Dana. Best of luck to him.

Oh, Dana, what rotten timing.

Dana, that's just a boatload of shit. I'm sorry.

My goal is to strive for happiness in and around me. To feel things. The past three years have probably been some of my best so far. Definitely the most even keel (previous decade NSM, but I was good at fronting through the numb and internal shittiness) and the most true to myself. There have been some crazy highs, but those are ancillary, it's the sum of the normal days that have been good. Doesn't mean it will be without grief and troubles, but that I'll have the resources and core to see me through.

Dana, damn. That is just awful.

There have been some crazy highs, but those are ancillary, it's the sum of the normal days that have been good. Doesn't mean it will be without grief and troubles, but that I'll have the resources and core to see me through.

What she said. All of it, really.

Holy-Shit-I'm-Turning-41*-What-Have-I-Done-With-My-Life-Oh-That's-Right-NOTHING-I'm-Not-Even-Climbing-The-Corporate-Ladder-I-Have-No-Goals-At-All-Holy-Shit.

Hey, did you hear about this copy editor who died a millionaire? [link]

Dana, that is just a clusterfuck for your family. The sort of people who pre-announce a termination don't sound like they're all warm and fuzzy about work/life balance, but I hope they do your husband fairly, and that he's not even on the potential list anyway. Y'all need to move on your schedule, not anyone else's.

Why won't Gina Torres marry me? What did I do wrong? Is it the straight thing? Me? Or her? Shit.