My parents weren’t alcoholics, they just abused me emotionally. It makes it harder for me to understand why they did it, and easier to blame myself.
Bye, now. Have good sex.
Kaylee ,'Jaynestown'
Natter 70: Hookers and Blow
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Tom Scola - Jun 19, 2012 6:59:38 am PDT #10341 of 30001
hwæt
javachik - Jun 19, 2012 7:03:25 am PDT #10342 of 30001
Our wings are not tired.
Javachik, others got there before me, but yeah, ACOA is Adult Children of Alcoholics - or addicts, or emotionally screwed-up barely-functioning people; the psychological profiles of their children tend to be similar. My sister has the "take control and make things work" personality; I have the "hide until it goes away" personality. And that's a very bad off-the-cuff explanation. Someone else can probably do it better, if you're interested.
Yes, sadly well aware of the situation, personally. I just didn't know the common initials. Thank you!
DavidS - Jun 19, 2012 7:10:45 am PDT #10343 of 30001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
It makes it harder for me to understand why they did it, and easier to blame myself.
Well, as they're not my parents I'm completely willing to write them off as Bad Human Beings with Poor Parenting Skills who didn't appreciate or do very much to help the young Tom Scola. Who - while not perfect - was certainly a very sweet, smart, talented kid who could've used some parents who were sensitive and supportive instead of mean, petty and undermining. Or in the case of your Mom, weak.
Feel free to print that up and take it to your therapist and say, "Hey, my friends say my parents were total dicks? Is that it?"
sumi - Jun 19, 2012 7:30:49 am PDT #10344 of 30001
Art Crawl!!!
Man, I'm working on an incredibly boring project. Why won't it end?
msbelle - Jun 19, 2012 7:57:49 am PDT #10345 of 30001
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
I think I am going to have ice cream for lunch, yes I do. And I think I will go now.
Burrell - Jun 19, 2012 8:18:40 am PDT #10346 of 30001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Happy birthday, Plei!
In completely unrelated news, cat peed on the bed again this morning. I honestly think she's too stupid to open the bedroom door. sigh.
P.M. Marc - Jun 19, 2012 8:55:58 am PDT #10347 of 30001
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
Happy birthday, Ple! I hope somebody remembers to give you some weirdasss Canadian candies and/or cookies that you can't get stateside.
Eh, I'll be up there next month.
Thanks, all! So far it, it's been meh.
sumi - Jun 19, 2012 9:00:59 am PDT #10348 of 30001
Art Crawl!!!
msbelle! I had ice cream for lunch.
Atropa - Jun 19, 2012 9:03:50 am PDT #10349 of 30001
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
I think I fit some of that, from growing up with my mom being so sick. That's ... sort of enlightening.
You might, Amy. The common denominator is the child having to take on a parental role because the parent - for whatever reason - is not capable of taking charge.
Oh. OH. Huh. That ... explains a lot.
Consuela - Jun 19, 2012 9:26:54 am PDT #10350 of 30001
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
Thanks, all! So far it, it's been meh.
Too bad! I hope the afternoon turns awesome.