Oh, that's one thing on top of another Suela, how awful. Is part of the issue with a nursing home/care facility that it would be hard to keep them together? I know alzheimer's patients often have separate wards and things, with locks and alarms and such.
Please...Wesley...why can't I stay?
Fred ,'A Hole in the World'
Natter 69: Practically names itself.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
meara - Mar 28, 2012 2:32:29 pm PDT #28499 of 30001
Allyson - Mar 28, 2012 2:33:04 pm PDT #28500 of 30001
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica
Yeah I dunno. Starting the week feeling like garbage, I can't do three more days of feeling like garbage. Amazing isn't really in my sphere.
Allyson - Mar 28, 2012 2:35:28 pm PDT #28501 of 30001
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica
I'm feeling too weak to get myself out of this mess. Just typing into the void and will probably feel stupid and melodramatic for doing so later.
Consuela - Mar 28, 2012 2:36:07 pm PDT #28502 of 30001
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
Is part of the issue with a nursing home/care facility that it would be hard to keep them together?
The biggest issue has been my mother's mental health--she's paranoid, anxiety-prone ("prone" doesn't begin to cover the extent of her anxieties: without a constant dose of Xanax, she becomes hysterical at the drop of a hat, or no hat at all), and claustrophobic. Just the thought of a locked facility sends her into conniptions.
But the paranoia makes it really really hard to get her to accept any help in the home, and Dad has been unwilling/unable to force the issue.
The best solution for them would be for me to quit my job and move in with them.
... that is, until I lose my mind and run screaming into the night. Sigh.
Typo Boy - Mar 28, 2012 2:39:24 pm PDT #28503 of 30001
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.
Allyson, don't know where I accidentally posted this instead of here but:
You have a decent job, and are a published author on the side even if the latter is not yet a major second income. You have tons of friends. You have the respect of a huge community. You do volunteer work besides. By any reasonable definition you are amazing and a success. I know "reasonable" does not affect feelings, but maybe coming from someone know for bluntness you will be able to consider that perhaps it is true.
le nubian - Mar 28, 2012 2:41:42 pm PDT #28504 of 30001
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."
oh Consuela. I'm sorry. Ugh.
Allyson, can you tell your folks that a friend (could be one of us) is suddenly in town and you will be spending the day with us? That will give you an out, you can get a hotel room and perhaps a massage and can get right.
Hell, maybe an ex-bf?
sj - Mar 28, 2012 2:52:23 pm PDT #28505 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
X-post with Bitches: Thanks, everyone! We have spent the last several hours figuring out where all the furniture goes and picking out paint colors. Now we're home having sparkling wine.
Allyson, I'm sorry you're having such a crappy time. You're family is in MA, right? If you need to escape my very messy apartment is available.
Allyson - Mar 28, 2012 2:54:25 pm PDT #28506 of 30001
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica
Thanks, all. The children are gone so I'm going to bed at 8pm.
Sheryl - Mar 28, 2012 3:06:29 pm PDT #28507 of 30001
Fandom means never having to say "But where would I wear that?"
Timelies all!
I'm sorry Allyson that things are crappy right now.
Liese S. - Mar 28, 2012 3:27:06 pm PDT #28508 of 30001
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."
Rest up. We're here for you in the morning.
Man, in work news, I just tore through five months worth of back data entry thanks to the wonders of the digital world in which we live. I don't know whether to be thrilled that I got it done, or pissed that I've been doing it manually for so long. The next step is to get expensify swinging along smoothly, and then I will be able to disappear the bins of paper receipts sitting next to my desk, since the IRS will accept expensify's digital versions of those receipts under $50. Which means a certain amount of sorting and filing to pull out the ones larger than that, but still. That would be a massive change in my paper handling.
In other news, I think I've pulled off a surprise mini-birthday celebration for the SO. He's stuck at work all day, but with only a few lessons interspersed through the day because it's spring break and he has most but not all lessons cancelled. All of mine cancelled, so I was off the hook.
Anyway, I worked it out with the coffeeshop owner, so at around noon, some balloons should show up for him. Shortly thereafter, they will bring out a strawberry shortcake birthday cake for him, which can then be given to coffeeshop patrons, too. And from that point on, about a dozen of his friends will randomly show up at the coffee shop to say happy birthday and eat cake.
I just realized that was the situation this weekend, so I pulled it all together over facebook yesterday and today. I hope it works. The thing that's funny about facebook events is the people who exist on facebook but don't really use it. I don't have a good way to realize that to trigger me to contact them otherwise. The people that aren't there at all, I can contact. But casual users, I just don't know. So this will be an all active facebook users celebration.