The blue book on this can't be too much. I am seriously worried that it is totalled. Hey, is that a tow truck in the distance?

She's having a hard time understanding me and remebering what I said. Doesn't make her look great.

Do you think she's under the influence?

Oh ita !, I'm sorry. What a rotten end to the day.

ita, consider calling the cops. In fact, I think one is supposed to call the cops for any accident with significant damage. If her insurance company refuses to cover your claims, you may need a police report substantiating your information that she is altered.

Please call the cops.

Oh man, I'm watching this HGTV show called Property Brothers and this couple just bought an 130-year old house without a home inspection. And are shocked when the contractor brother is finding issues. dag.

Definitely. I don't remember what the dollar amount is now, but back in the day if your car had more than $500 of damage you had to call the cops. And it sounds like you do, ita. Best of luck getting it all untangled, though, it sounds a mess.

brenda, that is a hell of a row to hoe. My aunt Ruth used to say "inch by inch, anything's a cinch." So that's what I do, when there is just too much to put it down on the page for one day and I feel overwhelmed, I list just one task each day and get that one done. Period. Once it's done, the sense of relief is usually so huge I go on to get other things done.

I feel the need to deploy the bubble wrap around ita !, but only if she won't kill me with her pinkies.

brenda, I'm sorry you have to deal with all of this right now.

Something I've found that helps me get things done when all the big picture stuff is so daunting that I'm frozen and unable to start any of it is to break everything into smaller component parts. I make a list of action items that actually can be achieved in a relatively short period of time (email X, call Y, do laundry, review these presentations, buy plane tickets), and check things off as I go so that I can feel like I'm making progress. I'm teaching myself how to prioritize. Like, is this time-sensitive? Okay, then do that first. I don't know why it seems so difficult for me.

If I try to do everything at once, I generally don't get anything done at all. And I'm trying not to feel horribly guilty when I'm not actively working on my To Do lists, because we all need down time and I'm not supposed to be such a jerk to myself.

And I'm trying not to feel horribly guilty when I'm not actively working on my To Do lists, because we all need down time and I'm not supposed to be such a jerk to myself.

God, so much this. I actually made myself just sit and watch TV earlier, because I just couldn't multitask for one more minute.

ita, speaking as someone who is heading to small claims court to try to get the guy who hit me last spring's insurance to pay me back, please call the cops. I so regret not having an official accident report.

Also, glad you're ok.