It's the worst thing about grief, to my mind. You think you're moving forward, then a wall jumps in front of you to smash your nose into. It's not at all a linear progression, more a mad undulating spiral. Only when you can look back on it do you see that there was an improving trend.
It's because you didn't have a strong father figure isn't it?
Joyce ,'Chosen'
Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Connie Neil - Mar 01, 2012 10:33:50 am PST #8915 of 30001
brillig
Liese S. - Mar 01, 2012 11:05:05 am PST #8916 of 30001
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."
You guys! I need a quick makeup check! [link] I usually do lipgloss and I did lipstick instead and I'm heading out the door for vocal lessons and I feel all PAINTED HOOR! Tell me if I actually look ok! (I realize normal people wear lipstick and I'm probably just overreacting because I don't.)
Calli - Mar 01, 2012 11:05:19 am PST #8917 of 30001
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
Benign~ma to you, GC.
sj, I'm so glad things are moving better for you on the new property.
sj - Mar 01, 2012 11:06:37 am PST #8918 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Liese, you look great! That is not a lot of make-up.
Liese S. - Mar 01, 2012 11:08:50 am PST #8919 of 30001
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."
Ok! Thanks, sj!
askye - Mar 01, 2012 11:24:23 am PST #8920 of 30001
Thrive to spite them
You look great!
Penny is back from getting spayed. I've got her in the bedroom because that's the place with the least stuff to jump on. My living/kitchen area is all open and there's a high window she likes to jump from the table to the window.
The bathroom is out because I discovered last night she can jump into the builtin cabinets.
So she's in the bedroom and immediately she jumped on the bed. I hope this doesn't mess up her stitches but there's no other place I could put her.
Atropa - Mar 01, 2012 11:25:00 am PST #8921 of 30001
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
Liese, you look lovely. Not a lot of makeup.
smonster - Mar 01, 2012 11:29:38 am PST #8922 of 30001
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Probably too late, but you look fab, Liese. Very subtle and professional.
askye, I'm trying to keep Xusha from jumping, and it's pretty hopeless.
Maria, what everyone else said about not having foreknowledge. I'd have regrets if either of my parents died suddenl (ptui ptui ptui), and yet knowing that isn't going to spur me to call them and lay shit out. I think regrets, like imperfection, are part of being human. No relationship is perfect.
NoiseDesign - Mar 01, 2012 11:51:36 am PST #8923 of 30001
Our wings are not tired
Maria, there will be regrets. I have some pretty big ones surrounding the death of my father. I wouldn't say the pain fades, but for me the times that I get blindsided aren't as frequent. When they do happen they are just as hard, but at least they aren't every day any more.
I don't really know how it gets better, but it does get better. Things never go back to the way they were, but it becomes possible to find joy, and to be able to actually enjoy it.
Burrell - Mar 01, 2012 11:55:03 am PST #8924 of 30001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Liese you look lovely! I kinda want your haircut too.