It's simple. I slap 'em around a bit, torture 'em, make their lives hell...Sure, the nice guys'll run away,but every now and then you'll find a prince like Spike who gets off on it.

Buffy ,'Get It Done'


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Liese S. - Mar 19, 2013 3:43:17 pm PDT #27648 of 30001
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."

Until you can find a therapist, Strix (and anyone else struggling with mild depression and/or anxiety), I recommend ecouch. You may have heard me talking about moodgym before, that's the earlier version, and I still refer to it that way because I love the thought of just working out regularly on my mental health. Anyway, it's a free online mental health resource that assesses your mental health, gives you some information about what you might be dealing with, and talks you through and gives you exercises on working out some methods for dealing with stuff.

It doesn't replace a good in person therapist, but it can be a good stopgap while you're looking, and it doesn't have a lot of the barriers involved (I have to go out? What if I don't like the therapist! Maybe they're judging me.) because there aren't actually people involved, just you and the tools.


Connie Neil - Mar 19, 2013 4:33:20 pm PDT #27649 of 30001
brillig

I tried moodgym but didn't get far because I had the feeling that some of the issues being addressed were trending towards a younger audience. I was probably misreading it but I look forward to looking at ecouch.


Liese S. - Mar 19, 2013 4:35:07 pm PDT #27650 of 30001
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."

No, it definitely was intended for a younger audience. And ecouch is as well. I just ignore the bits about relating to parents and whatnot.


Connie Neil - Mar 19, 2013 4:46:51 pm PDT #27651 of 30001
brillig

Online mental health care for the old and computer-literate!


askye - Mar 19, 2013 5:16:02 pm PDT #27652 of 30001
Thrive to spite them

There's this website called Daily Challenge, [link] I think it's affiliated with Psych Central. And it has "tracks" with daily micro challenges you do about different things. As you do stuff you get points and badges and what not and you can post what you did and comment on what other people have posted.

The challenges depend on what track - there's tracks like All Day Energy. Conquering Clutter, Fit at Work, Exploring Emotions, Quick Cardio, Simple Cuisine, and other things.

and the challenge maybe something like do a specific stretch 10 times, or eat something rich in Vitamin C today or do the child's pose.

It has a way for you to add friends but you don't have to do that. I have to admit I've been slack about it but I'm planning on getting back and doing it.


quester - Mar 19, 2013 5:24:00 pm PDT #27653 of 30001
Danger is my middle name, only I spell it R. u. t. h. - Tina Belcher.

Strix, I think you are an amazing person, and facing this as straightforwardly as you are is just more proof of that.

and I just want to reiterate what other wiser people have posted:

WindSparrow:

Depression is a dragon we have to slay every day. At some point in the future it may stay dead, but there is no guarantee of that for any of us.

askye:

OF course we respect you and love you. You're not a bad person AT ALL. You are kind and funny and generous and brave and a good person...

StephL:

Dealing with it won't be a breeze, but you are tough and smart and strong AND you have an amazing support system, including us. So when you don't *feel* tough and smart and strong, we can help you find it again.

Trudy Booth:

Take a look back at your life. Think, "Dude, I could be sooooooo much crazier than I am." Because you're a marvel of mental health relative to what you could be. And you should pat yourself on the back for that.

Hugs!


quester - Mar 19, 2013 5:24:39 pm PDT #27654 of 30001
Danger is my middle name, only I spell it R. u. t. h. - Tina Belcher.

Ginger, stubborn = strong!


Strix - Mar 19, 2013 6:03:23 pm PDT #27655 of 30001
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger

Hugs ALL THE BUFFISTAS!

Except for the hug-averse.

You've made what could be a dour day into a positive one.


Polter-Cow - Mar 19, 2013 10:02:49 pm PDT #27656 of 30001
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!

{{{Strix}}}

You need some Aeslin mice, is what you need.


le nubian - Mar 19, 2013 11:38:10 pm PDT #27657 of 30001
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."

Strix,

hugs and no judgment. I am glad you are seeking out ways to address what's going on. Do you think a group support setting might be helpful in addition to what you have researched and discussed?