Huh. To him or to other people? Is this old school Freudian analysis?
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smonster - Feb 01, 2013 3:40:03 pm PST #25815 of 30001
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Tom Scola - Feb 01, 2013 4:00:17 pm PST #25816 of 30001
Remember that the frontier of the Rebellion is everywhere. And even the smallest act of insurrection pushes our lines forward.
Yes, very Freudian.
erin_obscure - Feb 01, 2013 4:00:46 pm PST #25817 of 30001
Occasionally I’m callous and strange
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smonster - Feb 01, 2013 4:15:16 pm PST #25818 of 30001
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
So you just sit there and talk? Does he ever say anything back? I've never done Freudian, so I'm totally clueless. Do you feel it's helpful? The therapist I saw for years was more Jungian, and it was very conversational. He could help me budget and interpret my dreams and tell me I'm full of shit, all in the same session. But that's me.
beekaytee - Feb 01, 2013 4:20:09 pm PST #25819 of 30001
Compassionately intolerant
I just acquired a new client (thank all the PTB, for real) and what sealed his interest in working with me was the word 'proactive.'
Freudian definitely has value, but I've honestly never met a 'happy' participant. It just seems so hard, and long and a bit isolating.
No disrespect to your guy...or your process...Tom.
I'm just smonster as to what works for me.
Scrappy - Feb 01, 2013 4:35:02 pm PST #25820 of 30001
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
My therapist would speak during a session--not a lot, but she had a way of finding those moments where I was engaging in unhealthy thought processes and making me aware of them. "You didn't bring it up? Why is that?" It was VERY helpful... although sometimes quite mortifying in the moment. She's in NYC and I beleive is still practicing and is AWESOME, so if you want me give you her name, let me know.
Amy - Feb 01, 2013 4:37:26 pm PST #25821 of 30001
Because books.
she had a way of finding those moments where I was engaging in unhealthy thought processes and making me aware of them
That's the way my therapist was. It worked really well for me.
Tom, do you think it might be time to interview some other therapists and decide if someone else might work better for you?
Steph L. - Feb 01, 2013 5:05:24 pm PST #25822 of 30001
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
We are in Columbus, at our swanky Doubletree (which is not the hotel where the event is), and I am full of Xanax. We stopped at the event hotel to register first, and as a fundraiser for a women's shelter, they were selling ribbons for $1 you can attach to your event badge (like "Top," "Bottom," etc). One of the registration people had a badge ribbon that said "Free Hugs." I checked to see if there was one that said "No Hugs," because I would have bought 10. Alas, they did not exist. (There was one that said "Fire Slut," and I thought it said "TIRE Slut," and I was all, "THAT'S a new fetish!" And then I realized perhaps I need to go to the eye doctor.)
So now we are getting dressed up and headed back for the party. Wish me chill. And a human hamster ball.
beekaytee - Feb 01, 2013 5:11:43 pm PST #25823 of 30001
Compassionately intolerant
Chill ~ma...extra strength!
Cass - Feb 01, 2013 5:11:53 pm PST #25824 of 30001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
I hope the Xanax holds and the people are unassy, Tep.
and I thought it said "TIRE Slut,"
Like, for race cars? Because I like Goodyears but, mmm, Pirellis.