Way to have your own back, Steph...and having a cool partner does not hurt.

Speaking of not respecting boundaries, I just totally acted a jerk to a stranger.

I tried to help a young couple to keep from hurting a dog that does not belong to them because they just didn't know what they were doing. It went very badly.

I noticed an English Lab puppy standing with a gentleman at the market just now. The pup was wearing a HUGE choke chain, too big for the pup and installed upside down, so when it was yanked...which seemed to be happening a lot, it would not go back to the loose position. So the pup was choking.

I walked up with the usual, non-invasive questions. When I mentioned that I am a behaviorist, the gentleman looked plaintive and said, "Oh, I think we need your help. This isn't our dog, it's my girlfriend's parents' and we just started dog sitting a half hour ago." He then said that they would have 'Maggie' for two and a half weeks and weren't sure how they were going to get on.

Just then, the gf shows up with a really snooty air and said some dismissive things to him. When he tried to introduce me, she yanked the dog away from him, screamed her name a couple of times and pulled the leash up so tight, the dog's feet were off the ground.

I asked if I could say something about the collar and the woman put on one of those fake smiles and chirped to the guy, "We really need to be going" and looked at him as if he'd farted in her face. She then said, if the collar is good enough for her parents, it was none of my business and dragged the poor creature away, gagging.

I saw them once again, while the woman was on her own and said that I really didn't mean to offend her.

She spoke so fast, I couldn't understand most of what she said, but it included something like 'you are a crazy woman' and 'you have nothing to say to me, we don't even OWN a dog' She then yanked the dog up again and started to move away. I shouldn't have done it, but I said,'That's obvious.'

This was totally wrong, I know. I should have let well enough alone right after I realized her personality, but it was such an easy fix, I really just wanted to help the dog. But I didn't let it go. As she walked away, I said, "When you return that poor dog to your parents, with tracheal damage, I hope they understand."

The worst. So wrong. I could have been compassionate and called out, 'please just turn the collar right side up and maybe watch a youtube video about how to use a chain.' But I was mad and was a jerk.

She just struck me as one of those, no one can tell me anything, brats. I don't know her. Who knows why she is the way she is. But, honestly, that 7 month old puppy may not make it through these two weeks. I feel just terrible.

I'm not proud.

So far, no family members have contacted Joe or me about attending this afternoon. Our friend Jessica is attending with her daughter and we are so grateful.

And so very grateful for the support you all have shown us. Family of the heart you all truly are.

I can't imagine NOT going to a child's performance.

My pseudo-son-Sam had a theatre day at his school...it wasn't even a public performance. I may have embarrassed him a little by saying, "Yeeeessss" just as the lights went down. But, how could I not? He totally nailed his part!

He said he was embarrassed, but he was also grinning from ear to ear and telling everyone it was me.

Em should be rewarded for courage and talent.

Aims coal in your family's stockings too!

It looks like my uncle might still be in the hospital for Christmas, which puts all our plans up in the air. He may or may not be having surgery on his lung on Saturday. Either way he could us some health-ma.

Hah. See, I might've been calling the family and being like "So which day are you coming to the performance, Friday or Saturday??"

The whole wheat noodles were store brand. Highly not recommend. Was trying something new. It was the only whole wheat on the shelf. The noodles were on the flat side, didn't swell much with cooking. And a little on the gritty side. The family thought it was good. I thought it was my worst lasagna in a long time. Thankfully the cheesey bread was my best ever. Nom nom nom!!

You've got high standards which is commendable, but I'm sure they're right and it was delicious.

My family is very big on calling and inviting until you get a result. Sadly, some people need to be bugged.

Health~ma for your uncle, sj.

And high sulfur coal~ma for Aim's relatives.

smonster, D sounds like a really nice guy.

Well get ready, b/c you are about to find out how much D likes carrots satsumas.

Oh, bonny. Don't be too hard on yourself - you could have been a boddhisatva and she still would have responded like a bitch. Doesn't sound like she treats her bf much better, honestly.

Aims, could you at least call your fam and just tell them that you and Joe would appreciate it if they came, and it would mean a lot to Em? Or would they not react well to a direct request?

Steph, I'm glad Tim had your back. He's a good one.

Health~ma for your uncle, sj.

I must have skimmed over something... hope he's okay.