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I think, to a large extent, yes.
So, if I'm understanding your position, it is okay to be uncomfortable by any dominant area of your culture but it is not okay to be uncomfortable by non-dominant areas. Is this correct?
Don't they live in the house as well as Hil?
My understanding is yes. They are decorating their own house that they live in.
My understanding is yes. They are decorating their own house that they live in.
Yes. They're not deliberately trying to make her uncomfortable. But is it really hard to understand that the Christmas onslaught can feel exclusionary when you are outside of the overwhelmingly dominant mainstream tradition? And it might make you feel a bit uncomfortable?
The landlord isn't doing anything wrong, and I haven't heard Hil or anyone suggest otherwise. But her reaction seems unexceptionable to me and I'm not sure why it seems so objectionable to others.
(Onslaught feels more negative than I mean it but I'm not coming up with a less loaded word.)
But her reaction seems unexceptionable to me and I'm not sure why it seems so objectionable to others.
I never said it was objectionable and I don't recall anyone else saying it was either. I'm trying to understand when it is and when it is not okay to be uncomfortable by someone's otherness.
When you're a tiny minority religion and someone in the dominant religion decorates your house for their holiday it seems ok to find that uncomfortable.
Its their house too of course, which is why its just "uncomfortable" and not "why the hell did you decorate my house, weird-o?"
So, the consensus I'm hearing is that it is okay to be uncomfortable with otherness as long as that otherness is the dominant culture. Does this seem correct?
People in my office do some decorating in their cubes this time of year. There are a number of small trees, kids' holiday art, etc. The person in the cube across from mine has an electric menorah, and she's adding in another bulb every day. I like coming in each morning and seeing the new lights. It's pretty, and I'm glad she feels comfortable sharing a bit of her seasonal celebrations here. I'd probably feel a bit more "um, really?" if she was doing this on my front porch, even if she owned the building, and Judaism isn't close to the dominant culture in NC.
So, the consensus I'm hearing is that it is okay to be uncomfortable with otherness as long as that otherness is the dominant culture. Does this seem correct?
Looking for the like button again.
It's not feeling uncomfortable with otherness. It's feeling constantly reminded that you are, in fact, the other, that you are not part of the dominant culture.
It's not feeling uncomfortable with otherness. It's feeling constantly reminded that you are, in fact, the other, that you are not part of the dominant culture.
Yep. This is as good a summation as any: there are times when you just get smacked in the face with being outside of what's considered the default.
What flea said. It's like heteronormativity, but I don't know the term for religious-wise.