Ugh, smonster, I'm sorry. I wish there was some way I could make it better. I am also continuing with problematic health- I've been having a low- to mid- grade headache on and off for the last couple of days and today it's on full red alert. Like, I just want to cry all the time. I've never had a migraine, but this is pretty awful.

If you get Pearls, since you're having active GI problems, I recommend the Pearls IC (I think the "IC" is "intensive care" or something similar) -- it has more strains of bacteria than the regular Pearls, and helps a lot when there's GI problems currently going on.

t /knows way too much about fucked-up GI tracts

{{{Nora}}} Much headache~ma to you.

I felt like I was just beginning to climb out of seasonal depression hell and getting shit done, when this cold hit. Now, I'm so exhausted I can barely move, and the house is slowly becoming a mess again. I hate this.

Yeah, Sparky gives good advice, especially with specifics, because otherwise no amount of clean is going to be clean enough for your landlord. It is not your fault. But you can agree to what reasonable things you think you can and want to do, and disagree to constant invasion of your privacy. That is totally appropriate.

Thanks, everyone. I just sent an email, saying pretty much what Scrappy said to say.

As for her coming into my apartment, she did have my permission to come in with the handyman to try to deal with the mice, after I first saw the droppings. Then, once she was in, she cleaned the kitchen. I think there's only been one time that she entered without my permission, and she left my a note apologizing for that -- the guys who put the air conditioners into the windows at the beginning of the summer and take them out at the end of the summer had come on a different day than she'd expected, and she let them in to take the air conditioners out of my windows a few weeks ago.

I also have a raging sinus headache today, and my ears are clogged so badly that I'm having trouble hearing, and I've got to deal with one of my most annoying students this afternoon (I am staying several hours late so that she can take an make-up exam which we both know she is going to fail), so it's just all-around a sucky day.

Wait. She cleaned your kitchen?

Wait. She cleaned your kitchen?

Yeah. She said that the mess (some crumbs on the counter, a bit of tomato sauce that had splattered on the stove that I hadn't wiped up, a floor that honestly did need to be swept a bit more often) was what was attracting the mice, so she cleaned it up and scrubbed everything with bleach. She also took the peanut butter jars out of my recycling bin, because she said that there was no way to totally clean them out, and the little bits of peanut butter left in the jar would attract more mice.

I agree with the peanut butter thing--it's often advised to use peanut butter to bait mousetraps.

I think the landlord thinks she's being helpful--Hil was very upset when the dead mouse was in the trap and I am sure the landlord was concerned. The tone of her email seemed to me to be about how she and Hil were going to fight this together. Coming in and cleaning is obnoxious, but I don't think SHE thinks she's being that way. I think Hil needs to make sure she says she's NEVER had mice and to remind her that the previous tenant had a cat. And just reiterating that she is going to do her part to make her place non0-mouse-friendly, and that the landlord needs to do her part--such as regular exterminator visits, etc.

The tone of her email seemed to me to be about how she and Hil were going to fight this together.

I'm not so sure about that. The part about drawing the line here, and about how I need to keep clean wherever I may end up, kind of sounded to me like threatening to terminate my lease if there were any more mice.

The tone of her email seemed to me to be about how she and Hil were going to fight this together.

That's not how I took it at all.

I think there's only been one time that she entered without my permission, and she left my a note apologizing for that --

Case in point. Didn't she just say she was going to come in whenever she wanted to?