My OTHER way-less-rational mind however, just won't shut up.
I think it takes some forceful and active self acceptance work to do so. It won't go away on its own.
Simon: I, uh... I never-never shot anyone before. Book: I was there, son. I'm fair sure you haven't shot anyone yet.
'War Stories'
Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Nora Deirdre - Oct 01, 2012 6:48:25 am PDT #20868 of 30001
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
smonster - Oct 01, 2012 8:19:24 am PDT #20869 of 30001
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
What Nora said, all of it.
I am so damn queasy, still. I was chewing on ginger all morning. Trying to choke down a banh mi now.
Steph L. - Oct 01, 2012 8:31:36 am PDT #20870 of 30001
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
I could use some advice. Remember the saga of the friend who borrowed my corset for a party and then didn't return it for 4 months?
I haven't seen or talked to her since then. Today I get a FB message from her saying "Hi! How are you and Tim? It's been TOO LONG!!! Any chance I could borrow your corset for parties on the 16th and the 27th? If not both, my preference is the 27th. Talk to you soon!"
O_o
Really? REALLY? You borrow my corset, take 4 months to return it to me despite me asking several times if I could get it back, and then I don't talk to you for 6 months UNTIL you want to borrow it again.
I feel like I need to say something more than "No." I realize (thank you, Gavin de Becker) that "No" is a complete sentence, but I feel like I need to say something more. But I can't think of anything remotely polite.
brenda m - Oct 01, 2012 8:33:15 am PDT #20871 of 30001
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
Hey now. At least she gave you a choice of when you had to let her have it.
(And I vote you do. Let her have it, that is.)
Scrappy - Oct 01, 2012 8:33:52 am PDT #20872 of 30001
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
How about "Damn, Skippy."
brenda m - Oct 01, 2012 8:35:53 am PDT #20873 of 30001
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
Or more seriously, you know you're going to need it at some point during the holiday season between now and New Years, so you can't let her borrow it.
"I'll return it right away."
"Well, I can't be sure of that. Sorry."
le nubian - Oct 01, 2012 8:36:24 am PDT #20874 of 30001
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."
I think you should just say "sorry, I have a few uses for myself in October."
And then:
"how have you been doing?"
sj - Oct 01, 2012 8:37:49 am PDT #20875 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
How about, "No, I need it for an upcoming event of my own. However, if you are going to be in need of a corset so often I can direct you toward the website where I bought mine."
Steph L. - Oct 01, 2012 8:42:43 am PDT #20876 of 30001
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
Oooh, these are good suggestions. Keep them coming!
(I did a search on this thread to see how far back all that happened; she borrowed it in November of LAST year and didn't return it until March of this year, and just now re-surfaced to borrow it again. Yeah...NO.)
meara - Oct 01, 2012 8:58:37 am PDT #20877 of 30001
Believe me, no one is being as critical of you two as yourselves. BELIEVE ME.
I'm sure this is true--but I was horrified to see my crazy double chin. Which I figure other people see all the time and just incorporate into their concept of me, but it doesn't usually look like that in the mirror! Oy.
Of course, I still have to actually watch the video and figure out how to edit into something that would make the Amazing Race want us on the show. I'm feeling rather doubtful about that.