smonster, I have found that trying to interpret the thought process behind gifts only leads to driving yourself crazy.
He doesn't travel well. He's like fine shrimp.
Anya ,'Touched'
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sj - Sep 22, 2011 7:40:22 am PDT #19 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
amyth - Sep 22, 2011 7:46:56 am PDT #20 of 30001
And none of us deserving the cruelty or the grace -- Leonard Cohen
Calli, thanks! Also, I meant to say last night but I fell asleep: I'm glad to hear that there are positive things happening for you at work.
Calli - Sep 22, 2011 7:49:10 am PDT #21 of 30001
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
Thank you, amyth.
Toddson - Sep 22, 2011 7:52:07 am PDT #22 of 30001
Friends don't let friends read "Atlas Shrugged"
smonster, it sounds like he's trying to please you - nice dinner, something silver that's actually useful. So ... enjoy the dinner, the company, and use the wine stopper (you actually have wine left in the bottle? huh). I guess I'm saying enjoy the good and don't try to figure out what's going on in his mind.
Beverly - Sep 22, 2011 8:45:11 am PDT #23 of 30001
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.
What's going on in anyone else's mind is always a mystery and rarely what I expect it is. Todd's advice is sound.
sj, I would, if the assistant continues to be an ass-istant, call three days in a row: Hi, this is sj, logging the required second-day call to reach Dr. Wassname. Hi, this is sj, logging the required third-day call to reach Dr. Wassname. Having completed the hoop-jumping, I'll expect Dr. Wassname to get back to me today. Thank you for your assistance. Asshat.
But then I never claimed to be nice. Or logical. Or nice.
sj - Sep 22, 2011 8:48:24 am PDT #24 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Beverly, I have done all that, minus the asshat. I am going to call back in a couple minutes. I'm not waiting until tomorrow.
Beverly - Sep 22, 2011 8:54:28 am PDT #25 of 30001
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.
sj! I'm surprised, I thought you were nicer than that!
Seriously, strip the hide off her. Nobody should bodyguard a doctor from his or her patients that much.
smonster - Sep 22, 2011 8:56:18 am PDT #26 of 30001
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
sj, keep pestering. That is urgent.
Yay, amyth! That's so awesome.
I know it wasn't mean to, but this made me laff a little.
Actually, it kind of was!
And those gifts mean commitment?
No. A wine stopper is something I would give as a hostess gift. It seems... a bit impersonal? Or it did, until I made sense of it.
Look, I don't hate it. It's pretty. It's useful. It has violent possibilities. I do love a fleur de lis.
I guess I'm saying enjoy the good and don't try to figure out what's going on in his mind.
I see the wisdom in this, and yet my personality is such that if I understand why he does a certain thing (like wait until the last minute to make plans, or cancel on me, or whatever) it reduces my stress and insecurity immensely. We have really, really different temperaments, so my logic is not his and vice versa about certain things.
Anyway. Enough of that. I do enjoy the good, for it is very, very good.
amyth - Sep 22, 2011 8:58:19 am PDT #27 of 30001
And none of us deserving the cruelty or the grace -- Leonard Cohen
smonster, I hope we can do a birthday exchange or at the very least (this is more realistic) talk on the phone before I leave for France. Maybe we can make a phone date for this weekend?
sj - Sep 22, 2011 9:15:23 am PDT #28 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
sj! I'm surprised, I thought you were nicer than that!
Me? NSM. Although it is a common assumption.
I just called back. The assistant said, "Oh, I was just about to call you!" Ha! Anyway, she is now finally going to talk to my doctor, figure out if she wants to call in a new prescription or if I have to come back in (seriously?). She swears she will call me back today. If she doesn't, I swear heads will roll tomorrow.