I think that he was 1) unclear on the nuances of being bi, and having the common idea that it means "and" instead of "or" (at least for me) and 2) thought it meant I wasn't that into him.

But even if it meant and--he's doing "and" right now. Why should you anding be a problem?

Oh my stars and garters...I've missed so much! I need to go back...really far, to catch up, but in the meanwhile:

I loved that Attenborough report. What a delightful creature he is.

I spent, like, twenty minutes in Office Depot yesterday just debating pens.

This is totally me. And, smonster, I can't believe I've missed this development. I'm sending good thoughts your way and I'm proud of you for being in the game (in a way I totally am not right now), especially when it is a vulnerable, confusing endeavor.

I've been super-slug like for about a month. A little bit depressed (thanks to St. John's Wort, getting back on track), very busy with the pet company and basically eating/sleeping my way through the days.

This morning, got quite a jolt as there was a murder about 40 feet from my living room window. Very unusual for this area, EXTREMELY tense making until it became clear that the neighbor whose house the unfortunate fellow died in front of is out of town. Many detectives, a K-9 officer searching for who knows what and the incredibly surreal aspect of having cheery festival goers (my neighborhood is a historic district with a market/festival event every weekend) asking me if I knew the guy and how was he killed.

It completely shoved a doggy lama appointment I had scheduled this morning out of my mind. I feel terrible for spacing on the couple, but they were very understanding and rescheduled.

I was feeling pretty sorry for myself...for no sufficient reason...until I realized, I'm not that guy.

I have as much useful info to share on romantic relationships as I have on Tibetian saffron harvesting. Possibly less. But I hope all Bitches who end up giving it a try end up in whatever kind of relationship is most fullfilling to them.

What Calli said.

I am completely not prepared to get on a plane tomorrow, but I am heading to a party for my friends who got married earlier this year, so I guess I'm just not going to think about it for a few more hours.

Pointing upward to what Calli said perfectly. (And hoping some of her hoping works in this Bitch's direction).

Hey ita_!, today's teefury might be relevant to your interests:

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Hi bonny! Good to see your pixels. And OMG, how scary and awful! I don't blame you for spacing, one bit. My god. I hope the busy is good busy? I thought of you this morning because the dog spa that hosts doggies and donuts is working with a new trainer, and she was there introducing herself this morning. Seems very nice. Also, remember you were curious about the artificial turf thing? It's great for eliminating the mud factor, but the pee smell is pretty awful. They need to find some enzymes or something.

But even if it meant and--he's doing "and" right now. Why should you anding be a problem?

We're not in a relationship right now. We've only been out together a few times. We've slept together twice. My understanding is that he was thinking that if we were in a relationship, I might always have my eye out for a woman, that I might prefer that. It's not an uncommon attitude for straight dudes to have, IME.

IDK. After a super-cathartic venting session with R, I'm feeling like the red flags may be starting to stack up anyway. But I'm feeling good about how I'm handling the evolving situation, mostly.

I'm slightly depressed and slightly drugged. This probably means I'm about to go buy something I don't really need on eBay.

oh! Hi, bonny! Awful thing to happen but glad you're okay!

My sister helped me organize my office and my kitchen! Aren't you proud?! memememe

I get overwhelmed by choices. I spent, like, twenty minutes in Office Depot yesterday just debating pens.

Well, pens are important. I could happily spend hours perusing office supplies.