Most workaholics I know use work as a reasn to avoid their families.

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Zenkitty, depression is a heavy sea to row. I am glad tht writing things out helped your perspective. I was getting set to give you a peptalk about how you deserve to be kind and patient with yourself. Or maybe some other stuff that is meant well, but so often falls flat to the depressed ear. I hate that I keep learning that depression is not a one and done thing. I want to be done with it myself. But I do not see it happening.

I would like us both to be done with it, Andi. I'm glad I have people like you who understand to help me deal. I'm working real hard on being kind and patient with myself. "Patient" is hardest. Looking back over the last three decades, I can see I'm much better at dealing with Life than I used to be. It's just hard when I see how far I still seem to be from being the person I want to be. Be be be. Doobie doobie do.

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Zenkitty, we hold hands and we keep moving. One day at a time. One task at a time.

And since I'm trying to get out of the habit of speaking for the Bitches with 'we,' I'll say this with 'I' instead: I think you're wonderful, and I'm proud of you, and I will do my utmost to be here to support you when you need it in the rough times and to celebrate with you in the festive times.

(I suspect that I am not alone in this sentiment, but I won't try to speak for anyone else.)

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Karl speaks for me too. And since it's at least two of us, I can use the "we" word. We think you are amazing. And we will do our utmost to be here to support you. So if writing it all out helps, please do it!

I vote Smonster butt-dials everyone, but only if the cell phone is on an unlimited calling plan

Will she be wearing the belly dancing bell belt? Video phone? Could make it more interesting. IJS.

So it looks like I really lucked out with the new community. Everyone I've met so far seems real cool and friendly. The gay couple (I say it like there is only one, but there are more), they were walking back from drinking somewhere, and popped in. They love my flooring and paint choices. Heck, if I got gay seal of approval, I guess I did ok. But then again, they were both pretty lit up, so odds are, they'd love everything. Anyhow, baseboards in the living room are painted. The dining room boards are taped up, so tomorrow those can be painted. We started getting the tub area ready to install some ceramic soap dish, shelf for shampoo, and a grab bar. So hopefully we can finish that tomorrow. And it looks like the sink issue is just a couple washers. So we will pick those up tomorrow and see if she still leaks. Some progress in the rest of the place, while in a holding pattern in the bedroom.

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One day at a time. One task at a time.

What Karl said, Zenkitty. All of it. Just know that I'll be here rooting for you as you take each step, and will also be here for you with hairpats (or whatever you would find soothing) if you run out of spoons and have to not take steps for a little bit.

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Zenkitty, I think you are wonderful so I hope you get out of this funk soon.

I just followed you on twitter! That for SURE will get you out of the spiral, right?

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Also, you butt dialed me!

I saw that! Sorry, not sure how that happened. Did you get to eavesdrop on a riveting convo between my coworker and I?

I just followed you on twitter! That for SURE will get you out of the spiral, right?

le n is cracking me up.

Zen and Andi and all those who struggle with depression, oy. Even when I can bring myself to be grateful for the deeper compassion depression has brought me, I resent the pain it brings. Zen, if you want to email me at profile addy as you get things done today, I can cheer you during my breaks. I am always up for mutual productivity binges via email or chat or what have you. Or you can do what I do and just post it in Bitches!

Windsparrow - the young can be soooo clueless. Hard to cluestick them gently, sometimes.

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Windsparrow - the young can be soooo clueless. Hard to cluestick them gently, sometimes.

...but you succeed admirably.

Zen, I'm know I'm not giving any news flash by saying that there's no magic bullet to get rid of non-event-specific depression. But treat yourself today. Even if it's just a walk in an area of the park that you don't get to every day. (Well, not necessarily in DC. It's too hot for a long walk in the park.) Get through today first.

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Harvey sends his best purrs to everyone who needs 'em.

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I'm awake. I think. So early for me. It's strange, I can sense spoon supply dwindling, but I keep pressing on. Once the adrenalin rush of moving is done, I sense I will be very sore.

ZenKitty, how are ya doing today? I second the notion of a nice walk. Maybe drive to the park, revel if you find a parking spot in the shade, and then walk around a bit. Bring a towel soaked in cold water, put that around your neck.mthat will combat the heat a bit. {{{Zen}}}

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