Cass is totally my cold bucket of reality today (which is good).
I am trying to be a tepid bucket of reality. Less startling than cold. Maybe a comfy bath of reality.
Saffron: He's my husband. Mal: Well, who in the damn galaxy ain't?
'Trash'
Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Cass - Jun 22, 2012 11:16:06 am PDT #15673 of 30001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Hil R. - Jun 22, 2012 11:17:22 am PDT #15674 of 30001
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
Nice Guy: [link]
Calli - Jun 22, 2012 11:18:23 am PDT #15675 of 30001
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
A Nice Guy isn't being nice because he's into treating people decently as a matter of course. He's pretending to be friends in the hope that he'll get laid. See [link]
erikaj - Jun 22, 2012 11:19:45 am PDT #15676 of 30001
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-
I don't know...just an instinct, but if my instincts were good, we'd be having this conversation in a bigger house. Something about it struck me as manipulative. But maybe I'm a jerk who lets good people out of her life for no reason.
Amy - Jun 22, 2012 11:28:33 am PDT #15677 of 30001
Because books.
A Nice Guy isn't being nice because he's into treating people decently as a matter of course. He's pretending to be friends in the hope that he'll get laid.
Ah. Although, in my experience, even guys who are being nice just to be nice still hope they're going to laid.
erikaj - Jun 22, 2012 11:37:18 am PDT #15678 of 30001
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-
I think the thing that makes the Nice Guy different is how bitter they could get when you don't come through for them.
Calli - Jun 22, 2012 11:38:22 am PDT #15679 of 30001
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
Although, in my experience, even guys who are being nice just to be nice still hope they're going to laid.
Yeah, but that's not the only reason they're being nice. If they're nice guys, as opposed to "Nice Guys," they'd be nice to women they don't want to bone, too.
Amy - Jun 22, 2012 11:40:39 am PDT #15680 of 30001
Because books.
If they're nice guys, as opposed to "Nice Guys," they'd be nice to women they don't want to bone, too.
Sometimes I forget that a lot of people just aren't. But yeah, I get it.
smonster, for what it's worth he sounded a little passive-aggressive to me. Not sure if that's equal to manipulative, but there was a vibe.
Typo Boy - Jun 22, 2012 12:10:05 pm PDT #15681 of 30001
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.
The whole "you are a catch" though true, does not fit the "I'm willing just to be friend" thing. At the point where you are accepting a relationship, if it happens, won't involve sex you dial back on the sexual compliments. Yeah harmless flirting between friends happens, but not at the transition from dating to just friends. Maybe that is what triggered Erika's instinct - which I would not ignore.
Steph L. - Jun 22, 2012 12:16:39 pm PDT #15682 of 30001
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
Went to midnight showing of Brave for my Bday last night.
I went to a matinee of Avengers today (Tim didn't want to see it a third time, and I still have Fridays off, so -- movie! still awesome), and there was a family there to see Brave, which I could tell by the little girl in a Merida costume, right down to really cool golden sandals. No bow and arrow, though. I asked the mom why no bow and arrow, and she said, "I would fear for my son's safety!" Heh.