BWAHA, Tep! I feel stupid being so vague, but I know what *I* would do with google-fu, so I am just being, probably unnecessarily, cautious but I am strategizing, so...

I am NOT happy with your migraine. Bebe, I am SO sorry!

Suzi, insent.

bonny, it sounds like he has married a wonderful woman, and has changed as a person -- which is incredibly hard to do. I think you did exactly the right thing in marrying them. (Sorta)friend sounds like she is taking out her anger at him on you, which is NOT ON.

Tep, I hope you feel better soon.

o-a, I forgot to say congratulations on the condo-having (provisionally)! I'll really throw confetti when you sign the docs.

On one hand, I want to have one of those self-righteous discussions where I get to tear her playhouse down...on the other hand...Meh.

I am quickly learning that those discussions do absolutely nothing for people who are convinced of the righteousness and justness of their viewpoints. All it does is give them more ammunition with which to turn around and fire right back at you. At the end of the day, they are still selfish and hurtful, and you are one step closer to being mortally wounded.

I didn't want to cut contact with these individuals for various reasons, but my shoulders are not wide enough to carry my own blame, let alone the blame that belongs to others. There are many more sinners than saints, and I cannot deal with people who think they are the latter while labeling me the spawn of the devil. While I'm sad at the loss of people and things that are important to me, my mental health is better when I surround myself with people who genuinely give a damn about me, warts and all.

Life is too short, bonny. Let the toxicity go and concentrate on the good that exists right now and that is to come. There's nothing we can change about the past, but it's experience that can make our future better.

Google doesn't index the thread pages, Strix.

Ah, good to know, ita !. I am still going to be discreet and stick with the name change, as certain people have persons with wealth at their beck and call, and I would rather be safe than sorry.

I am paranoid BECAUSE someone is out to get me!

It's not really practical to erase every mention of your name, but you might want to make sure the kid's name isn't in any threads, if you're worried that they'll make it this deep into the site.

I am quickly learning that those discussions do absolutely nothing for people who are convinced of the righteousness and justness of their viewpoints. All it does is give them more ammunition with which to turn around and fire right back at you. At the end of the day, they are still selfish and hurtful, and you are one step closer to being mortally wounded.

Just echoing this, because it's a true thing that took me too long to learn.

I am paranoid BECAUSE someone is out to get me!

Strix, I'd be more concerned with mentions of b.org (even obliquely) on other sites that aren't us. I'm not sure if you've done so on FB, twitter, or on your blog.

I have never referred to this board except as b.org, except as b.org, and then only a few times. And I have never mentioned it to personas non grata at all, even obliquely.

I will go through the threads and redact any mentions of full names.

Mumbling bad words, BAD words, unkind thoughts...GRR.

I will go through the threads and redact any mentions of full names.

Change them to stuff like Dick Cheney. (I'm sure I'm not bursting any bubbles by saying that our beloved Rio [FUCKO] is not actually married to Bob Saget.) (But I kind of wish she were.)

Took a short nap, and while I am just loopy as hell from drugs, I seem to be (touch wood) not pukey any more (currently testing that theory with 1/2 a GF bagel), though my head still hurts. We're having bad weather, and I know that a low-pressure (or high-pressure?) weather system can turn my poor head into a barometer. So perhaps getting out of town into different weather will help.

God willing, we'll hit the road by 2:00 and get to Greensboro by 10:00 (where I plan to take a long soaky bath in a hotel bathtub).

I have changed information. Thank you all for the advice and assistance.