My cousin's ex-husband, who was a non-ex at the time, as well as an Orthodox priest (since forcibly removed from both positions), threatened to be stank about her baby brother's wedding to an awesome Catholic girl; the main officiant, another Orthodox priest who'd known the groom's family since before the groom was born and had known the Catholic co-officiant almost as long, called him up to read him the riot act and threaten him with all sorts of counter-stank if he so much as twitched in a way the older priest didn't like. Then the bride called him and added her promise of total disinvitation from any family event ever again if he twitched in a way she didn't like.
So he showed up, shut up, and was thoroughly docile. Which was nothing short as a miracle, as he was truly a brass-dipped, nickel-plated asshole if ever there was one.
Possibly my family and their immediate circle should consider hiring themselves out to apply counter-stank as needed on behalf of stressed-out bridal parties, because they seem to be good at it.
Like having burly bikers show up at military funerals to keep the loonys away.
P-C, those shirts are awesome. I might have to get me one of those.
Teppy's response is on target, as others have said. I've probably told the tale of how my parents helped H and I elope after his parents refused to talk to him about me? In fact, his father went nuclear on him, in Ukrainian, which I don't speak, in the next room, while his mom and I sat and studiously avoided eye contact till he was done.
Seven years later, they called us. The relationship after that was close and warm and on our terms. I wish your brother the same sort of outcome.
seska, you've gotten excellent advice on the kitty. I wish him well with you, and the other humans and cats.
Erin, I hope your arm mends quickly and with as little pain as possible.
Teppy, how's your brother doing?
Ginger, did you find a glove that works? How've you been feeling today?
Cass, it's good to see you here. Thinking of you.
Sean, I'm glad you're feeling better today. Those midnight depths are very rocky, and I'm really happy you made it through.
smonster, good for you, and better sailing ahead.
The rest of you? Group hug!
I think bikers are awesome...they always help people in wheelchairs cause they usually have a friend from Da Nang(or maybe Kandahar)
they may look scary, but they step up.Whereas, the person that looks like the clean-cut citizen fondles their phone and dithers.
::hugs Beverly right back ::
::glomps Scrappy. gooses::
P-C, I've mentioned before that Bec's parents didn't attend our wedding, and indeed left the FAC because the minister married us. It was still a joyful occasion. Frankly, the only wrong response to your parents' tantrums is giving in to them.
Teppy, how's your brother doing?
He's doing okay, but he's not in a rehab program at this point. While he was in the hospital he talked to one on the phone, and after he was released he went to that place for an evaluation, but he says it was mostly heroin addicts and not really any alcoholics, and he didn't think it would be helpful to him because of that.
I asked him if he had any other programs he was going to check out, and he said, "I think what I need the most is therapy," which I don't disagree with. I asked him about AA, and he said that, in researching it, there are things about it that he doesn't really like. And that's fair; AA isn't for everyone.
All that said, I personally wish he would find a rehab program or at the very least a program similar to AA so that he would have support from people who have been through what he's going through. So, I'm concerned that he needs more support right now. But I can't make him do anything. Just be supportive and give him my 2 cents.
I think there is one called Rational Recovery.
