Is there a friend of his you can call? He can be stubborn with someone there, at the very least.

I don't have any of his friends' numbers, but maybe I can get him to call someone. I think he doesn't want anyone seeing him go through this. Which I get; we are cut from the same stubborn, proud cloth. But it would be better if he had someone there.

what about a taxi?

He really wants his wife with him. Which I get; I would probably feel the same way. I still don't think delaying it is the right choice, but he's an adult and all I can do is suggest things. Despite being the Big Sis, I am apparently not the boss of him. Which is bullshit; I thought that was a lifetime gig.

Steph, if you know names of friends I can probably look up numbers in the public records databases. My profile address is good if you want me to try.

Teppy, what an awful situation. It makes me so angry that he wants to get help and can't.

So many vibes to your brother, and getting-the-help-he-needs-now~ma Tep. And, no, the Big Sis worrying doesn't go away. You are such a good one; he could have none more better.

Also, I keep reading the words "knitting bender" and imagining someone doing complicated martial arts moves that result in boulder cozies and scarves on trees.

Tep, I'm sorry your brother's going through the ringer. It's just miserable for him to have to endure it by himself right now.

I'm so sorry, Teppy. I've seen how bad it can be and I wish he were in the hospital. Is there a local AA number? They might be able to send someone to sit with him.

Hoping your brother is able to get the help he needs fast. He is doing a really hard and brave thing. And he is lucky to have you for support.

Is there a local AA number? They might be able to send someone to sit with him.

I talked to him a little bit ago. He has a buddy who has been sober for 8 months, and he's been talking to him on the phone. I asked if the buddy could come over, and he doesn't have a driver's license b/c of a DUI. But they've been talking on the phone a lot, so I think it's helping.

He's hanging on, but I'll be a lot happier when he gets to the hospital. He is *freaked out* by what he's going through, by just how bad it is. He mentioned the possibility of seizures and that, quite understandably, he doesn't want that. He's freaked out enough that he's chock-full of motivation to quit.

And I deeply regret googling "alcohol withdrawal," because apparently that was the actual cause of Amy Winehouse's death. I think?

So I'm a bit freaked out myself.

I'm glad your brother has someone near(ish) who understands the situation, Steph.