Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
but, as many of you know, one cannot compare pain and guilt to that which other have suffered, as one persons horrific problems does not negate the seemingly less problems of others
First, I hope you know I love you and care about your pain. I am grateful that you have this place because it is much easier to share with your blinvisible friends than those in meat space. Yes, many of us have been there and know well the pain and guilt.
I applaud you making a plan and would suggest two things added to the schedule you may find odd. In addition to the concrete action items of cleaning, which is essential to move in a positive direction, you should consider these. 1. Schedule a weepy pity party. Watch that movie, read that book that makes you weep every damn time and release some tears. 2. Do something pampering for yourself. New hair bobble, nice bakery treat, something you think you don't deserve.
I'm sorry that you have to go through this, but I believe you have turned the corner. Also, {{{{{ hugs }}}}}
Oh, Erin. I'm so sorry that this has been such a horrible time for you, and so humbled that you felt that this was a safe space to share what I know must have been a terrifying confession to yourself as much as us.
Many, many hairpats and hugs and spoons to you.
Thank you, all! It's a scary thing to articulate. I've always prided myself on having 'nads of steel, but they seem to have lit out for the North Pole these last weeks.
I AM going to do some cleaning, but not too much. And serendipitously, a friend emailed me to go get my brows waxed today, which I am going to do, and has promised to lend me a Xanax to do it, since I have been quasi-agoraphobic girl for the last 3 weeks.
Oh Erin, do take care. You have my love and support.
May any time you find yourself fetal and hurting be spent in the most comfortable, comforting, warm, and healing place imaginable. And send our thanks to your Hubby for looking after you.
Erin, love, you are brave and wonderful! The Black Dog lies!
Love you, Erin!! You've been there for me so much, happy to do whatever I can to help. Baby steps - try not to compound your issues with guilt and judgment. Breathe, stay self-aware, you can do this!!
Erin, honey, you know I know what this is like. And you DO still have balls of steel, because just talking about this, asking for love and help, does in fact require the aforementioned balls.
I like your cleaning plan -- can you do it in 20/10 or 45/15 fashion? (That's 20 minutes of cleaning, 10 to take a break.) Be kind with yourself and do what you can.
Are you going to see the Avengers this weekend? Is that something to look forward to, or it the prospect of going out among big crowds too overwhelming?
You have all of my support, lady. You can do this, and we will help you however you need.
In lighter news, I totally got the Justified toaster(does it blow up or shoot bourbon?) Now I know how it must feel for Boyd Crowder, turning those convicts to the Lord and shit. Minus the whole "mud people" thing, I should say.
