I think you can't discount culture. You want to protect what you have. I'd have her in for a long interview/training day and see how she meshes. She's going to be A. nervous and B. on her best behavior, but that should still give you an idea. If her "best" behavior doesn't show you someone eager to fit in and do things your way, it's a red flag.

OK, on what Scrappy said I do have experience. And she is 100% right. Fit is important, and if her "best behavior" does not show a damn good fit, that is indeed a red flag. In short put a lot of weight on the interview, and have tough standards for how you rate her performance on that interview. It is up to her to sell you, even though you approached her. If she feels otherwise, that itself is a red flag.

Thanks everyone. I wasn't sure I was right putting so much emphasis on culture but my gut was telling me I needed to.

Fwiw, I think the only possible ethical issue is that she can't "bring clients with her". They can follow but she can't approach them. So I need to make that clear and make her understand the risk she is taking. It's worth it for me to risk 2-3 months salary but she won't be able to go back so it's a bigger risk for her.

Other than that, I've decided to take my #2 with me. I can't remember if I had made up my mind in that when I posted but I want to send the signal that she and I are a team and that her vote had a lot if weight with me.

I think I will have to pay close attention tomorrow and see how it goes. She was pleasant and deferential on the phone (probably also a little shocked) but *I* need to remember how much I have accomplished. I'm the opposite of arrogant but in this case, I think I need to be clear to myself that I'm the boss/decision maker here.

I think the only possible ethical issue is that she can't "bring clients with her". They can follow but she can't approach them.

She's not an attorney, right? Unless there was some agreement with the firm?

Yeah, I took some short cuts with that statement. She's not an attorney. But I would still be worried if she was talking to clients prior to leaving and then coming to work for me. Well maybe not worried but not happy. Even just being sued would be a huge expense and not worth it to me.

In case everyone was wondering, I met with the paralegal and I liked her. Even more important, my #2 liked her a lot and gave her a hug when we left! So we will see what she wants to do. I did get a good feeling from her.

That is very good news! I hope it works out better than all expectations for all of you.

Could any/some/all of us ever come together and create something that was TWoPpian, but (Buffista) better?

Yes, this is craven, but not only. My husband is a network engineer. I've thought of doing this on my own. Then I've thought of us doing it together and have gotten much happier. Is anyone interested? I know we have writers, techies, editors, accountants, etc., here. I think -- if we build it, they would come.

If you respond and then don't hear from me, please poke me on FB, Twitter, or in email.

I would think a certain part of it would be a monetary issue--both in terms of paying for the site, and paying for the time of the people working on it. Would ad revenue really cover that? I know b.org a lot of folks pitch in cash when they've got it or when Jesse says we need it, and ita and others have put in lots and lots of unpaid (though much appreciated!) time when there's issues.