Natter 68: Bork Bork Bork
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
I don't understand the Gosling love. I am dismayed at the Ashton/Demi breakup. And I love the idea of herds of vicious cantaloupe. Wait, I realize I have no idea how to spell that melon.
This morning I slept in and got lost on my way here, but the woman I'm working with brought me breakfast! And it was YUM. some kind of acai sorbet or something, with granola and bananas and strawberries and some mango and pineapple and kiwi, and even a teeny slice of coconut on top! OMG so good (but I shudder to think how Many calories--it was huge and I ate it all and am very very full)
I had to explain my eating habits to the sleep psych. That's always great to do to health professionals. No, I don't eat much. No, I don't eat vegetables. Yes, I'd love to eat more. No, I'm not wasting space on green things when there are naked calories out there with my name on them. SHUT UP.
She wants to fix my appetite. That's *so* low on my list of priorities unless you can tie it to headaches or insomnia. And she hasn't.
Today is Adrock on Top Chef day!!!!!
I feel like I should be home picking out the perfect outfit to watch it on my teevee.
I don't even know what that sentence means. The one with chef in it, not outfit. Outfit I get.
Damned fucking Modcloth made me buy sale stuff anyway, even though I resisted the jacket I linked to. I hate them.
Herds of vicious cantaloupe sounds better than lots and lots of bacteria.
I'm dismayed that Ashton Kutcher is such an asshat but given that, I'm glad that Demi tossed him out.
BTW, Stansborough Grey is the wool that they wove the cloaks out of for the LotR movies. You can order your own elven cloak at the link.
My version is a Listerine outbreak.
I hate Listerine.
I feel like we are playing telephone here.
My petty first-world complaint of the day: it was too hard getting the kids out the door to school today. I hate it when the morning begins with a battle. Anyway, the upshot is that I realized I need to come up with a new discipline model.
Punishments (taking away toys and privileges) are not effective these days, as they don't inhibit the bad behavior and end up escalating things, with bonus of kids trying to negotiate with me when I just want to move on. Respectful requests to meet expectations OF COURSE was a bust. Yeah, we start every morning that way, but again, doesn't inhibit bad behavior or deter escalation. Sigh. Parenting is hard.
Burrell, only if you're doing it right.
Is there any way to flip it to a positive reinforcement system? If you get out the door on time, you can have/do x? Over the years this has been the more effective method when CJ needed redirection. Which reminds me that I need to find a way to flip a current problem we are having. Hmmmm...
removing the toys, not at the moment of bad behavior, seems to work somewhat for us.
He acts up and loses computer privileges - it won't work if I reach over and turn off the computer right then (if he is already on) - that always escalates, but I tell him over and over to get off and turn it off, the longer it takes the longer the consequence.......which is, the power cord is gone the next day or he needs a log on to get on. Other variation, toys are gone, put away while he is at school or asleep, do not come out until stated time. TV channels are locked down, sometimes to nothing being visible without a code. Wii controllers are gone, bedroom door is removed, playdates are cancelled. I could go on and on. One thing at a time is all I ever do anymore and I usually only say once what will happen and then always always follow through. Privileges can be earned back, but never 100% once punishments are doled out.