Book: Captain, you mind if I say grace? Mal: Only if you say it out loud.

'Serenity'


Natter 68: Bork Bork Bork  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Nora Deirdre - Aug 31, 2011 3:53:46 am PDT #23261 of 30001
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)

COME ON SASS!!!! Man, she's tricksy.

Love the FPC clause invocation.


Sparky1 - Aug 31, 2011 3:59:45 am PDT #23262 of 30001
Librarian Warlord

The good news is that the woman said Sassafras looked healthy, and calm - not dirty and desperate. She was making Ragu, and it must have smelled wonderful.

I feel like I should have stretch marks, because pregnancy on a 4'9" frame is not pretty.


Lee - Aug 31, 2011 4:00:40 am PDT #23263 of 30001
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.

Awesome news on the Sass sighting!


Calli - Aug 31, 2011 4:05:45 am PDT #23264 of 30001
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

Sass is a taunty taunter. I hope you'll be able to use his visit to track him down.

{{Maria}}

My mom had me when she was 39. I was a surprise (my folks had been married for 9 years then, but Mom thought she couldn't have more kids). Bearing me relatively late didn't cause me or Mom any physical harm.

I'm also on the "no kids, thanks," side of things. And I'm very glad that I haven't seen any, "Oh, you say you don't want kids now, but it's so different when they're your own." Because sometimes it is, and sometime the parent(s) realize that they were right in the first place. Whether the latter results in physical damage or just growing up knowing you're not wanted (and, yeah, you know), it's not a good thing.

I was looking for a romantic partner before dying parent care became a full-time hobby. Since that's finished I've been trying to spend some of my spare time doing things that get me out around people (the flying club, until the inner ear thing hosed that, possibly scuba diving after I get back from France). And I'm on a geek-centric dating site. (geek2geek) Aside from a few winks from people in other states and that one email exchange from a guy who would have liked to meet if I could promise not to be too fat (er, no), there's been no interest.

Localistas, you'd tell me if I smelled bad, right?

To be fair, I haven't seen anyone terribly interesting myself, either. I keep toying with the idea of getting some therapy, to see if I'm self-sabotaging or something. Everything else in my life is going pretty well, though. And money's finite and there are so many more interesting things to spend it on, like travel and new hobbies.


Jesse - Aug 31, 2011 4:09:29 am PDT #23265 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

Aw, you guys. You guys!

I do want to call this out again (from Plei, I think):

Just because someone else's year was made of explosive diaherra doesn't make yours not a poop-based structure.

SO TRUE.

And OMG SASS!! Stay around teh peoples, doggie!!!

If you have insurance that covers it at all, and you're even toying with the idea, I highly recommend therapy. It's so great! I mean, if you're me and enjoy going into a room and crying for an hour. Or 50 minutes. Well worth the co-pay. If your insurance doesn't cover it, it's definitely more of a financial consideration.


amyth - Aug 31, 2011 4:19:02 am PDT #23266 of 30001
And none of us deserving the cruelty or the grace -- Leonard Cohen

Basically, everything Jesse said, because I was going to call out that quote from Plei's post, but I had just woken up and didn't have my glasses on yet, and it was too harrrrd.

And SASS! The closest of close calls! OMG!

And with the right therapist, therapy RULES. I have had mediocre therapy before, and it's wasted my time, but I LOVE my therapist now (THANKS, SMONSTER, for the hookup) and while I feel like it's accelerated my midlife crisis, I also feel like it's accelerated my eventual getting on the other side of it.


Jessica - Aug 31, 2011 4:19:07 am PDT #23267 of 30001
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset

Someone on a local listserv found a pair of abandoned red-ear sliders (turtles) that need a home. PLEASE TALK ME OUT OF ADOPTING TWO TURTLES. I CANNOT AFFORD PETS.

I realized something that's been bugging me about FlyLady, and why I will never do the shiny sink thing - she assumes that women get no help housecleaning from their partners. In my house, DH does most of the dishes and laundry. He does these things while watching movies after I've gone to bed. So while I get what the sink represents, it's never going to be my personal symbol of That One Thing I Cleaned That Proves I'm Qualified To Live Among Civilized Beings.


Calli - Aug 31, 2011 4:26:46 am PDT #23268 of 30001
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

My insurance only covers mental health services if it entails a chemical dependency or a problem that puts me in the hospital. So, yeah, $$$$.


sumi - Aug 31, 2011 4:38:20 am PDT #23269 of 30001
Art Crawl!!!

Sparky! That is excellent news. .. if you could get everyone on the street to make Ragu. ..

{{{Maria}}} - I, too, am hoping for a silver lining in the job you had to take.

Allyson - woo hoo for the fixed car!

And buffistas - you are bringing a tear to my eye for the sweetness and the smartness and - - hugs to everyone.


Kat - Aug 31, 2011 4:40:59 am PDT #23270 of 30001
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo

And I'm very glad that I haven't seen any, "Oh, you say you don't want kids now, but it's so different when they're your own."

Calli, I would take the above statement and change it to "Oh, you say you want kids now, but it's so different when they're your own" because this statement is equally and depressingly true.

I don't really have buyer's remorse anymore, though I certainly did when I was pregnant, and this isn't me invoking a sort of Freaky Friday situation, but sometimes I miss kidless life. Or as other people call it "having a life."