zusia I say fire your hair stylist and find another one. I realize it can be hard to find a good stylist but that guy doesn't sound like someone who should get your money. Especially after the jab about not driving.

Yeah, I definitely won't be going back there.

My plan now is basically to make friend with the hair stylist on my next ship and have her salvage it as soon as it is long enough to save.

Happily, all the comments I've read so far are well-written, smart and blisteringly critical of the author's several layers of unexamined privilege. Altogether a much more satisfying read than the article itself.

I skimmed through the article it was pretty much - I looked at all these financial based things I can do that I hate and then decided on one I do like and now I'm doing that. I love team building! Not money managing or commodities!

Well of course for a person with that kind of background it's easy to just quit and do something else.

It also totally misses the fact that some people don't want to turn their passion into a career.

Most of the people I know who just quit to do something they loved had wives who not only had jobs but also generally did stuff around the house that no one loves to do. If everyone did what he loved, would we have garbage picked up? Fruit harvested? Inexpensive clothing? Septic tanks pumped? Fast food?

I feel like if everyone just did what they loved there would be a big gaping hole in actual productivity. All I really want to do with my life is act, and I know I'm sure as hell not going to make any money doing that, and even if I could, it's not like I'd be contributing to society in any way.

Find a new stylist. Seriously. You need to be able to talk with your stylist and come to agreements. If you have a style in your mind that the stylist doesn't think would work for you, he/she needs to be able to communicate that and work with you on other options.

I adore my current guy. He cracks up at my ever changing style ideas, but when I ask for something that would look like ass on me, he tells me. At this point, I trust him enough to be able to say - cut it however you think would look best.

All I really want to do with my life is act, and I know I'm sure as hell not going to make any money doing that, and even if I could, it's not like I'd be contributing to society in any way.

Nonsense. None of us would be here if it weren't for actors.

Nonsense. None of us would be here if it weren't for actors.

Well you've certainly got a point there. Hadn't thought of that.

OK- in addition to the MANY flaws and privileges inherent in that article-- the things I would do for free don't actually pay (play with small animals, look at cats on the internet, watch tv) and even being paid for the things that I am passionate about (theatre) sometimes makes them feel like work to me.

I think the trick is finding something you enjoy more than you hate that matches your skill set and personality. I haven't found it yet. Or rather, I think I would be a super great librarian, but that is not a job growth area.