I can't even imagine forking over air fare for a great-aunt's funeral. That is such a distant remove from me. It was a big deal for me to drive to Portland for my grandmother's funeral. (The only grandparent whose funeral I've attended.)
Though one thing you noted was key for my grandmother's death - she was the last person on that level of the family tree. With her passing it all fell down to my Dad and my Aunt Dot and there really was a sense of a generational shift. Especially since my Dad and Aunt Dot also passed within a decade so now it's down to my cousins.
Curiously when my grandmother died a bunch of stories came out which had been verboten before. Like, we're sitting around with my cousins and their kids and somebody pipes up about, "Yeah, what was up with that summer when we all got farmed out to our distant relatives?" and my Dad volunteers, "Oh yeah, that's when your dad (his brother) went AWOL during WWII and was put in the brig..."
That kind of stuff. My cousin Toni still doesn't know that she's named after the guy my Aunt Dot had an affair with while my Uncle was at sea.
{{Liese}} I'm sorry. That's a lot to deal with.
I can't even imagine forking over air fare for a great-aunt's funeral.
Well, we were really close. We were always in and out of her house every time we were in Hawaii, which was a lot of times, for months at a time. My "cousins" from that branch of the family although second removed or whatever, were my closest cousins when we were kids. We were always there or they were here. She came for my graduation, and my sister's wedding. (One of my regrets about eloping.)
My cousin Toni still doesn't know that she's named after the guy my Aunt Dot had an affair with while my Uncle was at sea.
! Is she more than named after him?
! Is she more than named after him?
Yeah, if she did the math and figured out when my Uncle was at sea she'd know. Two funny (by which I mean, "rather ironic") things: (1) she was my uncle's favorite; (2) she's really into geneology.
Everybody in the family knows except her.
Oh Liese, I'm so sorry.
Any chance you could get your Mom to go
for
someone else? For Sheldon's sake maybe? If he really needs her and all...
Thanks guys. I feel better about it this morning. I think it's unrealistic that any of us would go, but I think I can be okay with that. I'll try to get the cousins to get me in touch with Sheldon, because I definitely can relate to his struggle.
It's stormy! So we're skipping church this morning. I proposed we all go back to bed after breakfast, but no one seems to be doing that. Except me! Well, okay, I'm in the bedroom hanging out online, but still, lazy Father's day, yay!
I do wish I'd taken a bath yesterday afternoon when I was thinking about it, though.
Oh, Liese! What a mess of lousy choices!
Oh, Liese, that's all so hard. I now feel bad about not going to a great-aunt's funeral when I was a callow youth, mostly for my grandmother. (Edit: I don't mean now as in just now, but now as an older person.)
Cold, rainy storm. We're probably getting new snow in the mountains. I am loving this weather, truly.
