well, clearly ita smells.

It would be hilarious. You should move down here, date guys for a while and then toss the sex only guys to me. for reals. also they should be available for sex between 2-6 weekdays and rarely want to see me at night or weekends.

I totally know the guy for you! But here.

Anyway, that would be hilarious.

If you know them well and I don't have to know them well (or can get to know them well and they don't want to date me at all) then we can get it on.

But, good lord, I hate most of what consists of seducing a chick, even the honourable and sincere stuff. I'd almost rather be negged.

Of course, I must wear a sign that blazes aromantic over my head, because it's really very rare that any guy who knows me well wants to date me. Or, you know, I'm gross.

clearly ita smells.

And...I totally had "I smell" as the end of my last post instead of "I'm gross." Thank you, msbelleconscious.

I think for women, there is a difference between finding someone sexy and actually wanting to have sex WITH them. Skills need to come along with the package to have great sex, and looks are no guarantee of that so mere hotness is not enough. Sure, I IMAGINE sex with that person/body, but in my imagination they are good at stuff as well as hot. Since I know that ain't necessarily the case IRL, even when single my lust was always tempered by that gap. Usually.

WE ARE ONE!!!!

ahahahahaha

ok, I need to make dinner, off to grill for the first time this year.

My problem with the concept of "aromantic" is that I keep reading it as "aromatic" and wondering what smells.

THIS! I kept thinking, what? Rosemary? Thyme?

My problem with the concept of "aromantic" is that I keep reading it as "aromatic" and wondering what smells.

Ditto.

I am totally ready to place an ad for msbelle. "My friend doesn't want to get to know you, but needs to make sure you're not an axe murderer, so we're going to have to go out a couple of times first. But then it's all her and wham-bam-thank you ma'am."

I'm reading the aromantic thread at AVEN, and most of them I'm not. I'm not grossed out by most romance. I just...not prepared for that emotion, and I don't think I need it.

As most of the aromantics at AVEN are going to be aromantic, asexuals, it not the best place to go for information. Plus it's AVEN. AVEN is... well, it serves a purpose, but I still find the place annoying in the same way that the AfterEllen forums make me want to throw punches.

I find sexual attraction to be separate from a desire to actually fuck a person. Seeing someone and having the SCHWING! response (my body would like some of that, oh yes please, gimme!), which is what it means to me, is totally separate for me from wanting to get naked with a person (which requires more effort and investment).

Skills need to come along with the package to have great sex, and looks are no guarantee of that so mere hotness is not enough.

Sometimes it's worth it to find out, though, just to get to touch.

Seeing someone and having the SCHWING! response (my body would like some of that, oh yes please, gimme!), which is what it means to me, is totally separate for me from wanting to get naked with a person (which requires more effort and investment).

I think it's almost easier to get naked with someone if it's just a one-time, strangers-in-the-night thing. It's like losing your shit at the grocery store. Potentially embarrassing after the fact, but if it felt good at the time, no need to ever go to that store again.

That said, all the random sex I had was a long time ago.