I'm not sure there is an opposite; does there have to be?
Well, in that everything needs a word...but it was something that had occurred to me a couple days ago. Because, really, I tend to not have sex with people I have an emotional connection to. They aren't as physically attractive to me anymore. I want a label.
Oh, I get it! That's a good question. I'm not aware of a label, but I see how it's the opposite of demisexual.
So would an asexual person have sex with someone else to maintain or develop the relationship with the other person, not because they were especially interested in the Doing of It?
I think so. My POV is more demisexual -- I have The Sex with Tim, and actually *want* to. I have a hard time calling it "sexual attraction," though, because it's more that I want to have sex with him because he's *him,* not because of...whatever it is that happens when people are sexually attracted to each other.
I'm having a REALLY hard time articulating this, partly because it's only been the past 6-ish months that I've started puzzling this out, and therefore haven't really worked out a coherent Mission Statement re: My Sexuality; and partly because it's really hard to talk about something that I literally don't understand (the whole sexual attraction thing).
There's a FCM conference happening in town this week. It stands for Federation of Canadian Municipalities...everytime I see it mentioned, though, I crack up.
Do they have hats? Trucker hats? I would love a FCM trucker hat!
Because, really, I tend to not have sex with people I have an emotional connection to. They aren't as physically attractive to me anymore.
Huh. I think I'm the opposite of ita on this.
When I play FCM, I have to imagine that I'd hang out with the F person a while so I'd get to know them first.
I have to imagine that I'd hang out with the F person a while so I'd get to know them first.
I have rather dramatic commitment issues. The idea of being needed freaks me out a great degree. So the less opportunity for that to happen, the better.
Also, there are some people I figure would ruin a good, shallow, thing they got going on by actually talking, and I should forestall that with nookie.
In the real world, people talk. And connect. It's unfortunate.
Speaking of sex, this is the one book I was disappointed I couldn't get at BEA: a book of essays about sex by women writers and edited by Erica Jong, who also contributes. She was right there! I could see her! But you needed a ticket to get in line to have a galley autographed, and I didn't have one.
As much as I had The Trauma over watching New Who because of the whole romance thing, having gone back and rewatched the Who of my Youth... I'm not sure how so many Ace peeps see the Doctor as one of them in most of his regenerations.
Sheldon Cooper he isn't.
Erica Jong: The zipperless fuck. Man, what a great idea.
Okay, I gotta go buy some terabytes and then come back and write a project proposal.
Sheldon Cooper he isn't.
It is official that Sheldon is ace? I kind of don't want him to be, because I don't like seeing non-NT and asexuality conflated. But we've had this discussion.
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That said, if he is ace, the degree to which I *really* am Sheldon is amusing.
