Mac! Behave! Momma said so!
Go, Owen!
I am suddenly overwhelmed with useless guilt. Over something I did 10 years ago that I don't think the "offendee" cared shit about. It's been distracting me for two days now.
I was at cousin N's (one of many, but bear with me) 21st (wearing a dress I'd wheedled out of her, which I now additionally feel guilty about--I wonder if she wants it back? I still have it), sitting with my childhood best friend who was about my age--31. We were sitting behind N's little sister M. M has pretty much always been a spectacular athletic specimen. So, naturally, I say to my friend R...
"She has the most amazing ass. You have to touch it."
"What?"
"Touch. It."
So, he reaches out and cups her butt.
M, turns around and looks at her ass, looks at R, looks at me, says "Oh." and goes back to her conversation.
R looks at me and says blankly "It's been a long time since I felt up a fifteen year old's ass."
OMGWTF? That is so many different levels of wrong. You don't encourage someone to touch someone else without their explicit permission. Someone else's ass. Male someone to touch female someone's ass. 30 year old someone to touch 15 year old's ass. What was I thinking?
Thing is, this was perfectly normal for M. In fact I'd spent a fair amount of time trying to protect her from sexual advances from men her parents' ages, and I was the fazed one in the picture--not her, not her parents. But this wasn't a sexual touch--no one was treating it as such. She's a marvel of human engineering, and has a really great ass. That was an experience to cup.
WHY DO I KNOW THAT? WHY DID I PROMULGATE THAT? OMG, boundary!fail of the largest magnitude.
That whole family was inappropriate up the wazoo, and I can't believe what I started to take for granted. Jesus, woman.
I know M doesn't care. But I feel shitty about it, so t /vent
tl;dr: ita didn't respect boundaries and can't let stuff go.