River: You gave up everything you had. Simon: [Chinese] Everything I have is right here.

'Safe'


Natter 67: Overriding Vetoes  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, nail polish, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Steph L. - Mar 22, 2011 10:14:37 am PDT #29604 of 30001
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

I find myself terribly resentful, and then feel guilty for being resentful, because they're my parents and I should be willing to sacrifice for them.

I am right there with you, and I'm not even faced with the type of situation you are. I just resent being the only person my dad ever turns to, EVER, for every problem that EVER pops up. Including the fucking GPS.


Amy - Mar 22, 2011 10:17:53 am PDT #29605 of 30001
Because books.

After going through what she has with her mom, my mother is pretty much just, "If it gets bad, hold a pillow over my face, please." Which is awful, but I get where she's coming from. She's an only child, my grandfather died almost twenty years ago, and caring for her mom, even not at home, has been really hard.


Jesse - Mar 22, 2011 10:17:54 am PDT #29606 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

In circle-of-life news, my coworker's wife just brought their baby to visit. Yay baby!! Super cute and little.


Nora Deirdre - Mar 22, 2011 10:19:08 am PDT #29607 of 30001
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)

This conversation has me googling retirement communities in New Orleans. This place looks pretty nice.


Steph L. - Mar 22, 2011 10:19:44 am PDT #29608 of 30001
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

my coworker's wife just brought their baby to visit. Yay baby!! Super cute and little.

I think office morale would improve if there were weekly baby visits.

t edit And/or hookers and blow.


Ginger - Mar 22, 2011 10:20:05 am PDT #29609 of 30001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda

My mom is the first to tell anyone who will listen that it's a mistake to try to take care of people in declining health in the home. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this again, Burrell. And so often it is the women who end up doing the caretaking and making the decisions for both their own parents and their husbands' parents. (This is not to cast aspersions on any of the Buffista men, several of whom I know have been involved in caretaking.)

My mom has also been clear that if she's not able to take care of herself, I'm to do whatever I can to speed her passing, as long as I'm in no danger of going to jail for it.

I would like to be struck by lightning while gardening at age 90, please.


DawnK - Mar 22, 2011 10:20:35 am PDT #29610 of 30001
giraffe mode

I find myself terribly resentful, and then feel guilty for being resentful, because they're my parents and I should be willing to sacrifice for them.

Oh yeah! AND my mom gets to hear all about the issues with my MIL and now she won't even ask for help from my husband, and my brother is in England... it's just ugh! Thankfully my mom is in good health and has a long-term care plan in place.

Ohhh Jesse how fun! New babies are awesome


beth b - Mar 22, 2011 10:21:17 am PDT #29611 of 30001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!

My grandparents started the trend and my parents are continuing it . WE are a sensible lot. My grandfather enjoyed his last years in the assisted living facility . My parents , while they have no need, will be going that way when thy do need it. I t was a hard decision for Matt's parents, but to keep their Independence , they chose a place


Liese S. - Mar 22, 2011 10:24:33 am PDT #29612 of 30001
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."

Yeah, at the root of this for me is that I, personally, have a huge fear of old age. Death, not so much. Old age, horrified.


Ginger - Mar 22, 2011 10:27:26 am PDT #29613 of 30001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda

I would like to complain about a much less fraught irritation.

Why the hell is everything videos these days? The only instruction for something I'm trying to do is on a damn video, which will take 4 minutes to watch and I might have to watch it again. It takes me seconds to read instructions.