I don't think I have that kind of awareness, really, and guess what? If I get raped, it's still not on me.
Angel's lame. His hair goes straight up, and he's bloody stupid!
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Natter 67: Overriding Vetoes
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, nail polish, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Jesse - Feb 17, 2011 4:33:23 pm PST #23524 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Amy - Feb 17, 2011 4:34:51 pm PST #23525 of 30001
Because books.
Yeah, that's pretty situational for me. Also what Jesse said.
Trudy Booth - Feb 17, 2011 4:35:05 pm PST #23526 of 30001
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
I had a male friend go OFF on me about "living like a vicitim" when I asked him to stop at the ATM with me on the way home.
You won't go alone after dark?
No need to. You're here.
What if I wasn't?
I'd come when I walked the dog.
What if you didn't have the dog?
I'd wait until tomorrow, but I'd rather not leave early for work.
I'm not even a particularly cautious person. He was fairly amazed.
sarameg - Feb 17, 2011 4:38:53 pm PST #23527 of 30001
I don't think I have that kind of awareness, really, and guess what? If I get raped, it's still not on me.
Oh, that's too true. But the point I was trying to make is just that the whole conditioning is a symptom of the bigger problem. I think. Or it might have just been RAAAGE.
Jesse - Feb 17, 2011 4:40:10 pm PST #23528 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Oh sure. I just always think it's interesting when I hear that from other women. I don't know.
Steph L. - Feb 17, 2011 4:41:59 pm PST #23529 of 30001
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
the point I was trying to make is just that the whole conditioning is a symptom of the bigger problem.
Yeah, I meant that, too. I don't think that if I'm not aware of my surroundings and I get raped it would be my fault; I'm just hyper-aware of my surroundings. (Granted, most cases of rape are people the victim knows, not the stranger-leaping-out-of-the-alley scenario. Still, a dark parking lot gives me the creeps.)
Vortex - Feb 17, 2011 4:43:48 pm PST #23530 of 30001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Oh, my goodness, I forgot to post about this. We had a guy come to the theatre and just hang out in the lobby. He was wearing a fox tail that squeaked. He was also obsessively cleaning random bits and bobs in the lobby. It was creepy. I was glad that there were several people in the lobby.
sarameg - Feb 17, 2011 4:45:03 pm PST #23531 of 30001
For me, it is the calculus of "when I break down on the side of the road, if a guy stops, I'm staying in my locked car. Woman with a kid? I'll get out." If the security guard in the garage a few weeks back had been female, I wouldn't have felt so threatened.
Steph L. - Feb 17, 2011 4:45:55 pm PST #23532 of 30001
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
He was wearing a fox tail that squeaked.
???
Because, sure. Fox tail! Cree.Pee.
Kat - Feb 17, 2011 4:48:03 pm PST #23533 of 30001
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo
I don't think I have that kind of awareness, really, and guess what? If I get raped, it's still not on me.
oh yes! I totally don't have that awareness. But I also don't leave my house alone after dark.